How far is too far to go to prove a point to someone that you want to mind their own business and leave you alone? One woman may have crossed some boundaries and gone a little too far, and she's taken to Reddit to figure out if she's in the wrong.
The 35-year-old teacher was having some issues with her co-teacher, a 34-year-old woman, being overly nosey. So one day, the teacher decided to leave explicit messages between her and her long-distance boyfriend out in the open for the co-teacher to see.
The teacher explains the issue.
The original poster lets readers know that she works at an alternative school where each classroom has two teachers. Her co-teacher is a bit on the nosey side. As the Redditor noted, she "is very in-your-face, in-your-business and doesn't understand boundaries very well."
Apparently, this lady is always snooping over the OP's shoulder and will even "straight up yank my laptop away from me and look at what I'm typing, if my phone goes off she goes 'oooh who is that?!' and things of that nature."
The teacher tries to set boundaries.
OP goes on to explain that she gently tells her co-teacher that she doesn't like that kind of behavior. But the co-teacher doesn't think it's a big deal because she's an "open book." Yet when the teacher is not as gentle in confronting the lady, she "borderline cries and gets into an anxiety loop where she accuses me of being mean and/or mad at her."
She shifts gears.
The teacher then shifts to explaining that she and her boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship. They rely "a lot on sexting" in order to keep the relationship fun and spicy. Since they're in different time zones, she sometimes won't get responses to things she sends him at night until the morning.
Sher then takes matters into her own hands.
"Today I noticed he was sending me (text) responses to photos I had taken last night about what they made him want to do with me. I want to point out quickly that there were no kids in the room at this time, and even if one had wandered in, they're too short to get my phone and too young to read," the user said. "I decided to leave my phone on a tall standing desk by my own laptop while going to get a cup of coffee, knowing my coteacher would probably look at it."
The co-teacher takes the bait.
So of course, we all probably figured that the co-teacher was going to take the bait. And that she did. When the teacher got back into the room, the co-teacher became very serious.
The co-teacher scolded her.
"When I got back, my coteacher told me in a very serious voice that I need to be careful about what I am doing at work because she saw my disgusting and inappropriate texts," the post read.
The teacher defends herself.
"I told her she wouldn't have seen them if she hadn't been looking for them, and she said that wasn't the point, that she felt sexually harassed but wouldn't go to HR about it 'because the children wouldn't be able to handle a change in teachers.' AITA?"
Other users weigh in.
"Fellow teacher here," one person said. "ESH. Your colleague was absolutely in the wrong for always being so snoopy, but I mean, seriously. Leaving dirty messages out in the open, at a school, for your coteacher to find, is just nasty. Like, if I did that, I know for complete fact that I'd get in major trouble, if not fired."
Most think the teacher was wrong.
"ESH but you’re much worse," someone commented. "Your coworker is nosy and obnoxious. But you intentionally left sexual material in the workplace so she could see it, with the intention of making her uncomfortable. People get fired for stuff like this.
Someone else chimed in: "YTA. You shouldn’t be sexting at work but especially when you work with children."
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