Woman Uninvites Mother-In-Law From Thanksgiving Because She Plans To Bring Her Own Plate

"This year I (32F) am hosting Thanksgiving at my house and I have been working all month on coming up with the menu and testing all my recipes," the woman begins. "I am so excited to share my cooking with my family and my husband (35M) has been supportive and helpful through all the planning and prepwork. I have bought all the ingredients and I have a beautiful variety of dishes planned (both traditional and a few unique additions)."

"Well today my husband dropped the bombshell on me that his [mother] wants to bring her own dinner to eat when she comes over," the woman explains. "I asked him why she would need to bring her own food when I will have more than enough here. He just made excuses saying I know how his mother is a 'grade A picky eater' and she won't 'like' anything I have prepared."

"I thought that was ridiculous, I am not making anything unfamiliar to her and there will be plenty to choose from," the poster continues. "He argued that her bringing her own dinner would be a good compromise and I disagree. It will be hugely obvious that she's making a comment on my cooking and it would be humiliating to have her there eating something completely different in front of everyone, it's like she's trying to make a point of showing that my cooking isn't good enough for her."

"I think she is being incredibly rude and disrespectful of the time, money, and labor I have put into this upcoming meal. I told him if she can't eat anything here then she is welcome to stay home and eat whatever she wants. My husband is now calling me insensitive and petty. He says I am ruining the holiday. I don't see it that way. I only want friends and family around who are appreciative and kind – I don't need the negativity of someone rejecting everything I've cooked and insulting my cooking when I've worked so hard."

The woman updated her original post: "Because some people are asking, here is what I plan on serving:(First all the traditional thanksgiving foods) roasted turkey, stuffing, classic creamy mashed potatoes, potatoes au gratin, sweet potato casserole, green bean casserole, cranberry sauce, roasted carrots, homemade bread rolls with apple butter, roasted squash with goat cheese, honey glazed ham, braised short ribs, spinach, bacon, & feta cheese pies, special lasagna with white sauce, stuffed mushrooms, creamed corn with cheese, and then pecan pie, pumpkin pie, and apple pie for desserts."

One commenter wrote, "Yes, your MIL is being rude and disrespectful, but uninviting her is not the answer. Here's what you do: Welcome her and her special meal with open arms. Kill her with kindness.

"Be sure to point out to the other guests, in a lovey dovey, if perhaps a wee bit patronizing, tone of voice how MIL has special needs and brought her own food and you are SO GLAD she could make it even though eating away from home is so difficult for her. Offer to help her heat up her meal. Tell her it looks absolutely delicious and ask for her recipes and ask her is she could bring one of her wonderful dishes to the next gathering.

"Meanwhile, you and your other guests can enjoy your fabulous meal and your MIL can listen to all the compliments you get for it."

"We have seen multiple Reddit posts about people wanting to bring their separate meal," one commenter said.

"Some people are picky eaters and/or have dietary restrictions. Even if it is because she is being a [expletive], it makes you look far worse by banning her. Would you be as annoyed if it was a friend vs your MIL who made this request?

"Think of it as she has severe food allergies (even though that is not the case) and move on with your life."