When you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with all of them — not just certain parts. You're supposed to be proud of the person they are, no matter who is watching. But one woman just made her boyfriend jump through a ton of hoops when meeting her family, even asking him to hide certain aspects of who he is. It's the kind of thing that would make just about anyone wonder if their significant other is actually a little ashamed of them.
The woman took to Reddit to ask if she was in the wrong for asking her boyfriend to cover up his tattoos and speak differently when he met her family. She writes that he is heavily tattooed and describes her family as being a bit more straitlaced. That's not unlike a lot of people's families, but it definitely made her feel pretty uncomfortable about introducing him.
Right off the bat, the knowledge of that couldn't make him feel too great.
She writes, "A few months ago I finally got the courage to introduce him to my family. This was a HUGE deal to me and I told him that first impressions would make or break everything." Oh boy. It's already not looking good.
She told him that he would have to cover his tattoos, "no if, ands or buts." But the rules didn't stop there. She bought him a new outfit that he would have to wear, and she made sure he knew precisely how to behave.
"We had a practice run and I told him what he should or shouldn’t say, how to talk, how to address any of my dad’s concerns etc. At no point did he ever show any enthusiasm so that was a bad sign," she writes.
Then she describes what happened on the night he met her family. She admits that her family was critical and says he was "pissed" as a result. Well, that's not that hard to understand, especially after he was forced to change his physical appearance and behave like he was meeting the Queen.
But she says he was so angry that he unbuttoned his top button so that everyone could see the tattoos on his neck. GASP. This was apparently highly offensive to her stuffy parents. An argument ensued in which the snobs told their daughter that he wasn't good enough for her, which, let's face it, she basically seems to believe anyway.
She describes the dinner as a nightmare. It definitely sounds like it was for him, that's for sure. "To make it worse my bf told them that I like his tattoos (which I do but he was just adding fuel to the fire) and that it didn’t matter what they think." Well, at least one person was being honest. With that, the parents told him to get out.
What a sweet little family.
Of course, the couple hasn't been getting along too well since the incident. She told him that if he wanted "respect" from her parents, he should've covered his tattoos and behaved the way she told him to. But it doesn't really sound like she's doing a great job of respecting him in the first place.
The bottom line is, anyone else's opinion of the person you love shouldn't really matter. When you're in a relationship, you're supposed to operate as a team. Asking someone to hide who they are is not exactly the way to do that, or to make someone feel good about themself. It sounds like this guy is too good for her and her snobby family, if we're being real.
After all, you marry someone, you marry their family, too.
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