Grandmother Is Devastated After Finding Out Her Son Lied About The Day His Child Was Born

"My son (23) and his wife just had a baby boy," she began. "Everyone is overjoyed and excited but there have some issues that has risen recently.

"When my DIL was pregnant, I suggested that I host a welcoming party for my grandson right after she get discharged from the hospital. I've made arrangements and even emptied a room for them to stay but for some reason, she was against it and said she'd rather spend the first few weeks at home with her newborn. not only that but she said no to the welcoming party. My husband and I talked to my son and he said 'we'll see.'"

"But just a couple a days ago, We found out that my daughter in law had given birth 2 weeks ago and no one knew about it," the woman continued. "My nephew told me and I immediately called my son, he confirmed it. he and his wife lied then hid the date of birth from the family. I told him this was not acceptable, lying just because they didn't want a welcoming party and love and support being given from family."

"I told him I was disappointed because for one…he ruined our welcoming for our grandbaby and also, I invited family members and they're all rightfully disappointed as well. He said it was his last resort after I kept pushing and made his wife uncomfortable but that was not appreciated because.. we were just trying to celebrate the new family member in a proper manner."

"We had an argument and he ended the call upon saying I ruined his joy for his newborn. My husband started texting him since he stopped replying to our phonecalls and now is threatening to block my nephew for tattling but I think that my nephew was decent enough to inform the family. otherwise God knows how long my son and his wife were going to hide their son just to keep us at arms length. We've always been kind and welcoming to my daughter in law and ger family, I don't why she would do this and disrespect the family like that. on the other hand, some family members see it as a justified action because we insisted on the party."

The woman asked Reddit commenters what they thought, so they told her.

As one person put it, "'Welcoming party' is a nice way of saying 'exposing a newborn to all sorts of diseases during a pandemic.'

"You are NOT entitled to put this child in danger."

"No, it’s not personal," said another commenter. "Imagine being exhausted, being dragged through a hedge backwards, gaining weight, having no more than a few hours of sleep at a time, having a new little creature pull on your nipples every few hours, having bleeding nipples, having tears/stitches in your private areas, feeling depressed, having low self esteem, not feeling like you have enough energy to bathe let alone wash your hair, put on real clothes or do your makeup. DO YOU WANT TO HAVE A PARTY?"

"The 'big welcome' doesn’t have to be immediately after they leave the hospital, have some [expletive] courtesy, your DIL just pushed an entire human out of her body and they’re getting used to being parents," added a commenter. "Have the celebration a couple of weeks after they get home, when she’s had a chance to physically recover from the physical exhaustion of pushing a GD watermelon through her vagina, or have a chance to heal some if she had a C-section."