Woman Kicks Her Sister Out Of Her Wedding After Her Young Son Starts Fussing During Vows

Since the couple knew they would be inviting people with kids, they gave everyone a year's notice that the wedding was child-free so people could make arrangements:

"I got married this past Saturday. It was a very small affair with less than 70 people in attendance. I opted for a childfree wedding due to both costs and convenience. I like kids, just not at my wedding.

"Most people were fine with the childfree aspect. The wedding was announced a year in advance so most people could find accommodations."

Her sister was a bridesmaid, and her sitter canceled right before the wedding:

"The problem is my sister who was one of four bridesmaids. She has two boys, one is 2 and other is 5. Thursday she drops that her sitter fell through, and she asked for them to be allowed at the wedding. I felt pressured, but she begged for them to come. I told her as long as they behaved and her husband kept an eye on them."

As kids do, the woman's nephews ended up causing a few problems throughout the day:

"She was late getting to the venue cause the boys were fussy getting ready, so she’s only in a handful of the 'getting ready' pics. Fine, ok. Then the ceremony itself happened, and my nephew (younger one) began to act up during the vows."

Things got distracting for the bride, and she had to restart her vows twice:

"My husband and I wrote our own, and about halfway through mine he begins to cry and fuss. My bil grabbed him and very awkwardly made his way out, with my older nephew behind telling his brother to shush. I had to restart my vows twice due to the disruption, and I was already so nervous."

"The venue was outdoor as well, so we could hear my nephew fussing for a while until my bil got them a good distance away. I didn’t see this at the time, but according to the best man my sister was dramatically shooing her husband out."

To make things more tense, the bride's sister didn't see the problem:

"After the ceremony itself my sister vanished for a while, so we were held up with wedding party photos again. After the pictures, my sister didn’t even say anything, no apology, nada. After the first dances she finally came up and was like 'haha sorry about [nephew], it was nap time! He’s settled now.'"

"It was such a non apology and I was so upset. I told her I didn’t like how dismissive she was of my wedding and how I broke my own rule to accommodate her family and she didn’t seem to care. She said she was sorry again but I was blowing things out of proportion, and how it wasn’t as big of a disruption as I was making it out to be. I was just boiling at this point and asked her to please go, I didn’t want her there anymore."

Now the family is turning against her: "She and our mom was upset, and she was acting like a victim. She and I still haven’t talked, I’ve had a lot of people (mostly friends) say I was in the right, but my family seems to think I’m a bridezilla cause the disruption had already happened and I was just 'punishing' them."

A lot of people are coming out in support of the bride.

"It is a big deal; a deal that only happened because she made you (which, she basically did; OP [the original poster] could have said no, but then sister/family would've probably went off about that and she'd have MORE drama right before the wedding…) make an exception on your day, and it ended up interrupting your vows."

The woman chimed in and added even more details:

"Part of the post I had to remove was that I originally told her she could bring them to the reception only but not the ceremony, she really pleaded for them to come to both and like an idiot I agreed.

"Two infants were also in attendance (a 10 month old and 4 month old, my husband’s cousins kid and a friend’s child respectively) but during the ceremony cousin’s wife watched the babies in the bridal suite. I was gonna let my bil do the same, but my sister didn’t want him to miss the ceremony."

As one commenter noted:

"You gave people a year of advanced notice and you actively tried not to be a bridezilla by accommodating your sister's kids. She should never have put you in that position."

Quite a few people don't know if this was really worth the drama. One person said:

"This is a great example of a situation where Reddit will tell you that you aren’t an [expletive] because there is a justification for your behavior, but that doesn’t translate to real life. I just can’t imagine it being worth it blowing up your family and causing drama at your own wedding because you had to restart your vows (which, with an outdoor wedding was likely anyway)."

"The sitter cancelled, its unfortunate. OPs husband got up quick and moved the kid, he could still be heard and that's unfortunate. Its not like they just didn't try and purposely ruined the wedding. End of the day OP made an exception and should take some responsibility for that."

Another person agreed, noting that the kids just did what kids usually do:

"It’s not the kids fault OP was nervous and got flustered. Kicking them out after once it was already over and adding more drama is a pretty crappy thing to do, because it does just seem like vindictive punishment."