Every relationship has its ups and downs, but sometimes, those downs can last a little too long. And, that can spiral into you lowkey hating your husband. It starts small, with passive-aggressive comments that slip out when you’re tired and a lot of eye-rolling at every little thing he does.
Before you know it, you’ve become silent, withdrawn, and sarcastic. Here are nine phrases that once-loving wives tend to say when they begin to feel resentment toward their husbands.
"Why can't you be more like him?"
Constant comparison isn’t healthy, and it’s only gotten easier to do with the rise of social media. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing your relationship to the ones you see online. This phrase is a way of trying to push your husband to be better at meeting your needs, however misguided it may be.
"I'm not in the mood."
If a woman isn’t receiving the respect and emotional support she deserves, she might not feel very loved or comfortable in the relationship. As a result, she won’t want to participate in physical affection as often. Subtle hatred may come out in phrases like, “I’m not in the mood,” because you’re tired of offering affection but not receiving it in return.
"I need to be alone."
Individuality in a relationship is important. It’s normal to do some things on your own, but if there is a clear lack of quality time spent together, that’s not a good sign. If you’re using phrases like “I need to be alone,” chances are that you’re feeling isolated and disconnected from your partner.
"I don't care."
Hatred toward your husband may show up as slacking off on doing the emotional labor in the relationship. You stop caring and might start keeping score of when he actually demonstrates care for you. You’re looking out for your own emotions while avoiding or misunderstanding your partner’s.
"Why didn't you do this already?"
This is a phrase you might say through gritted teeth while mentally drafting up divorce papers. It comes out when you’re at the end of your rope and your will to live has expired, all because your husband didn’t complete, or even start, a task he was supposed to do three days ago. It’s passive-aggressive, or maybe even just aggressive.
"I'll stay home."
Small, casual phrases like this indicate that you’re drifting apart as a couple. You would rather spend a weekend alone with a glass of wine rather than be in your husband’s company.
"I don't even know why I bother explaining it."
When wives don’t feel heard, they tend to stay silent because they are exhausted from trying to explain the same things over and over. They may feel like their husbands don’t listen to them, as they only receive inattentive smiling and nodding as responses. So, they end up doing the same to their husbands.
"That's not right."
Nagging and criticizing are often a woman’s go-to moves when they begin to hate their husband. It’s her way of coping. However, it creates an even deeper divide in the relationship, leading to a complete disconnect and loss of love altogether.
If you’ve found yourself saying three or more of these phrases, it might be time for a relationship check-in. When communication breaks down, resentment has a sneaky way of creeping in. Maybe it’s not that you actually hate your husband, you just really need him to do the dishes without being asked.
