Olympian Adam Rippon has become one of the most beloved athletes on the world stage.
Adam's figure skating is what put him on the world's radar. He won a bronze medal as part of the figure skating team event at the 2018 Winter Olympics. He was the first openly gay athlete to win a medal at the Winter Olympics.
Adam's mom, Kelly Rippon, poured a lot into his career. A single mom of six kids, she found a way to foster Adam's talent while still devoting a lot to the rest of the family. She's incredibly proud of Adam's achievements, and the two share a very close relationship.
In celebration of National Coming Out Day, October 11, Kelly penned a beautiful letter to Adam. That letter was shared by Good Morning America. Her heartwarming words show the true pride of a mother who has seen her son go through it all and who has had his back every step of the way.
Adam Rippon has had a tremendously successful figure skating career. All of his successes culminated in the moment he won a bronze medal as part of the figure skating team event at the 2018 Winter Olympics.
Throughout it all, Kelly Rippon, Adam's mom, has been his biggest supporter.
"He worked so hard for all of those things, for all of his achievements," Kelly told Good Housekeeping.
"But it's his sexuality, something he didn't practice for and dedicate time to improving, that the public is most intrigued by."
Adam's win made him the first openly gay athlete to win a medal at the Winter Olympics. In a recent letter written in celebration of National Coming Out Day, Kelly remembers Adam's journey.
"You may be wondering why I am writing you a letter when we text and talk several times a week. You may also wonder why sometimes, after hanging up after an hour-long conversation on one of your homebound commutes, I will call you back within minutes and say, 'Before I forget to tell you …'" Kelly wrote, in the letter shared by Good Morning America.
"Lately I have felt an overwhelming sense of urgency and stopped assuming thoughts I want to share can wait to be said until next time. The life-altering conditions brought on by the pandemic have forced us to change our habits. For me, it has also highlighted the things I once took for granted."
Kelly goes on to explain how their family has been personally touched by the pandemic.
"The last time we saw each other was in Greensboro, North Carolina, in late January at the US Figure Skating Championships. I had such a great time, and unlike Nationals in the past where you were competing, this year we had time to have lunch and dinner and more downtime to catch up," she wrote of the last time she saw Adam.
"I made a choice out of convenience at the end of the trip that I would eventually live to regret. I changed my plans to fly down to Florida for a quick visit with grandma and decided to postpone it until the spring. I had no idea that I was denying myself the last opportunity, the privilege, to see my mother, hold her hand and tell her I loved her. I had no idea that she would become one of those numbers posted as daily statistical counts tallying national COVID-19 deaths."
"You know I have always asked you and your brothers and sisters to transform loss into love and to reframe it into an opportunity to learn and grow from it. I must admit it has been difficult for me this time to practice this philosophy myself," she continued.
In putting important things in perspective for Kelly, she took the time to write about Adam coming out and what that meant to her as a parent:
"I realize the pandemic has certainly limited where we can go and what we can do but it hasn't limited what we can say. I thought I would write this letter in honor of National Coming Out Day to make sure you know how important your coming out day was for me and revisit some of the things I may have forgotten to tell you."
"I remember walking with you through the arena parking lot on our way to rehearsal for a show you were in later that day. As we got closer to the door, you turned to me and nonchalantly mentioned, 'Mom, you know that I'm gay,'" she recalled.
"I think my first utterance was 'of course I know,' and then went on to say, 'good for you,' and 'thanks for sharing, I love you,' and without much fanfare, we entered the building. My reaction may have seemed neutral and matter of fact on the outside, but on the inside, I want you to know that I was fist-pumping with pride for you."
"We both knew that it was a big moment. But I want you to know some things I never said that day," Kelly wrote.
"I know that formulating the most personal details of your life into a complete sentence and sharing it out loud was difficult and years in the making, no matter how easy you made it look that day. I want you to know that if I appeared upset or worried later that evening, it wasn't because I thought there was anything wrong with you, it was because I knew there was something wrong with the world we both live in."
Kelly was used to fielding questions about Adam's sexuality, though he was young, because of the sport he was involved in:
"By coming out, you did more than share your authentic self: you gave me permission to disclose. Going forward, when someone asked me if you were gay, I could answer, 'He is… isn't it awesome?' I never thanked you for that privilege of being not just your mother, but elevated to your ferocious momma bear has made me a better ally."
Kelly was also proud of what an advocate for his community Adam would become.
"Your coming out and declaration of personal truth gave you a superpower that pushed open doors, kicked over obstacles and, most importantly, gave you the awesome strength that can lift others in their time of need. I don't often share with you the numerous people who have reached out and told me how knowing your story has positively impacted their lives," Kelly noted.
"I got to witness firsthand how far the impact of your story reached. I was on a flight to work just after the Olympics and a young college student sat next to me. We began to talk and I could see he was upset. He eventually shared that his parents disowned him because he told them he was in love with a man."
Kelly talked to the young man throughout their trip and reassured him that with or without his parents' approval, things would work out:
"I encouraged him to enjoy being in love and that his parents would work out their fears as best they could. He thanked me and helped me retrieve my bag from the overhead. He looked shocked when he noticed the name tag on my bag."
The young man hadn't known Kelly was Adam's mom.
"He started to cry and said that after watching you at the Olympics, he was inspired to travel home on his spring break and proudly come out to his family. He said your confidence was contagious. He confided he was raised in a religious home and turned to prayer after seeing his parent's reaction. He prayed for a sign that everything would work out," Kelly shared.
"He looked at me with tears in his eyes and said discovering it was Adam Rippon's mother who sat next to him and listened to his do-over coming out story, he would accept that as the sign that he prayed for."
Kelly went on to explain how many people she's met who are touched by Adam's story.
"Hearing and reading these moments of your influence fill my heart with pride. For me as your mother, pride is like a wheel that keeps turning, and I want you to know that I was as proud of you when you took your first steps as I was when you nailed your first triple axel," she wrote.
"I want you to know that I was as proud of you when you read your first book as I was when you wrote your first book. Know that I was as proud of you when you'd whisper 'thank you for everything, Mom' after a competition as I am when you publicly speak to crowds of thousands."
"Pride has no size. There isn't big pride or little pride because pride can't be measured. It isn't sourced by what you do or what you've done, it comes from who you are," she continued.
"My pride for you erupts when I see the satisfaction on your face when you are pleased with not just what you accomplish on the outside, but for who you are on the inside. Your official coming out in the arena parking lot that day years ago was one of those days. It was a day I got to witness that satisfaction on your face."
"Before I forget to tell you, thank you for empowering me to live a life beyond my wildest dreams. I love being your advocate, I love being your confidant, I love knowing you've met the love of your life, but most of all, I love being your mother," Kelly ended the letter.
