How do we even define a senior citizen? Legally, a person becomes one when they turn 65. That's when they can start using all of those senior discounts.
But not everyone feels like a senior citizen when they turn that arbitrary age. Some folks who have reached 65 might not even want to be called a "senior."
So, what else should we not say to the people that have been here on earth longer than us, who have seen so many things in their lives, both good and bad?
Many of these honestly surprised me, and I'm so glad I now know that these 10 things can really hit a nerve. I have so much respect for my elders, and know that they are people first — above all other labels — and I would never want to belittle anyone.
Did you know that saying these things was rude? Have you ever had anyone say any of these to you?
Let us know in the comments if we missed any. And please SHARE with your family and friends on Facebook so no one gets needlessly hurt, because studies have shown that a better, more positive sense of self can improve the health of seniors!
1. "Sweetie"
Infantilizing senior citizens is incredibly demeaning. Unless they tell you it's alright to call them honey, sweetie, or any other pet name, just call them by their names! They are, after all, still the same people they've always been their whole lives, just older.
2. "What's It Like To Be Your Age?"
If senior citizens feel like sharing with you, chances are they will do so of their own volition. There's no need to poke and prod, and ultimately remind them that they are no longer spring chickens.
3. "You Could Do That If You Tried"
Just because you may know someone else who's 85 and can still get out there on the tennis court doesn't mean that the person you are talking to is in the same place in life, despite being the same or a younger age. Instead of just listing off all the things that others their age can do, why not ask them if they would like to stretch with you, or go for a stroll outside? These are much more manageable activities that will encourage them to be active.
4. "You Shouldn't Do That"
Conversely, plenty of senior citizens are entirely capable of lifting heavy objects or playing sports. Don't tell anyone what they can and cannot do unless you are a doctor, or know for a fact that it is dangerous for their health and well-being. People know their limits, and they also know when they want to push them.
5. "Young Lady"
"How are you doing today, young lady?" This is infuriating and demeaning to senior citizens because they know they aren't young, and they know that you know they are not young. Ignoring their age implies that being older is a bad thing. Again, just call them by their names instead.
6. "Let Me Help You With That"
If they really need help, then yes, of course, help them. However, if they are getting around just fine with their walker, their cane, or on their own, let them be as self-sufficient as possible. It boosts self-esteem when people of any age are viewed as capable individuals, so why would that be any different for those who are older?
7. "You Won't Understand This"
Many people assume that the older generations refuse to learn new technology. While it may be difficult for some older folks, there are plenty of others who have already taught themselves how to use all the new gizmos, or who have found someone to teach them. If they ask for help, then you can certainly help them out, but don't automatically assume they won't understand something, just because of their age.
8. Nothing At All
Address them directly when you want to convey something. If they have a friend in the room who happens to be younger, don't start speaking to them instead!
9. "Act Your Age"
Why would you deprive someone of something — like their sense of humor or a sense of youth — when that is simply who they are, and who they've always been? What even is age, anyway, besides a silly number?
10. "You Look Tired"
Well, they very well may be tired, but just don't bring it up.
Have you ever made these mistakes with the senior citizens in your life? Or, have you ever been annoyed by someone saying one of these things to you? Please SHARE with family and friends on Facebook!
