Brides and grooms often have a lot of expectations for their weddings. Most of the time, those expectations can be met, and everyone will walk to and from the event happy. But sometimes, those expectations aren't possible — and people end up pretty mad.
One woman recently shared on Reddit that her friend is having a bit of a bridezilla moment. After delaying her wedding due to the health crisis, the friend is back in planning mode. Unfortunately, some of the conversations surrounding her plans are flat-out ridiculous.
The wedding is planned for later this year.
The woman begins by sharing that not only is this her friend, it's her best friend. She's even been asked to be the maid of honor:
"My (30f) friend (31f) is getting married in August. She invited me and my husband to the wedding already in October when she got engaged. I was asked to be her maid of honor."
The bride just decided to uninvite her husband.
Things were fine until the bride decided the woman's husband can no longer come to the wedding:
"I asked her why and she didn't want to tell me at first but then she said it is because he is shorter then me and it would look weird on pictures. He has around 165 cm (5 feet 4.961 inches) while I have 166cm (5 feet 5.354 inches). I think the difference is not that big and I offered I woudn't wear heels but she said I must wear them cause I am the maid od honor and bridesmaid will wear heels as well."
The woman is refusing to go.
This understandably surprised and hurt the woman, and she told her friend she's not attending the wedding if her husband can't:
"I said that if my husband is not invited because of his hight I am not coming to her wedding. She said that the day is about her and not about me and my husband and I should respect her wishes about her day. She said that she counts with me as with the maid of honor and I can't do this to her. I told her she is being shallow and that it is either me and my husband or none of us."
Her husband is upset, too.
The woman's husband agrees they shouldn't go, and he also doesn't like her friend that much:
"I talk about it with my husband and he think I am not the [expletive] and actually would think it would be bad of me to agree with my friend, however he doesn't like her that much (she doesn't know that so it couldn't play a role in it). So I am not sure if his opinion is really objective."
Her friend disagrees.
Unsurprisingly, her friend disagrees:
"I asked my friend and she said I am the [expletive] cause it is just one day and it is about the bride so I shouldn't make a drama out of it. So perhaps I am the [expletive] because I am focusing on me being there with my husband and not at what the bride wants?"
Lots of people weighed in.
Quite a few people pointed out the truth: The friend seems to not fully understand what marriage is.
"You and your husband are 100% correct," said one commenter.
"What on earth did she think your response would be? I think 'Both of us or neither of us' is entirely fair.
"For someone who is about to get married, she seems to have an odd idea of what marriage entails. You cant have it both ways.
"It sounds like she is essentially saying 'My marriage is important, yours is not.'"
There's also no way her husband would even be in that many photos.
"Is she planning for your husband to be in every single picture? From my experience the SOs of the bridal party are maybe in like 2-3 shots of the whole day. She’s being incredibly rude and shallow, and you don’t need to deal with that."
Also: Maybe people make weddings too big of a deal.
Others opened up a great conversation about whether or not people put too much weight on weddings being all about one person or two people. As one commenter noted:
"YES! THIS! It completely boggles my mind how weddings turn people into monster control freaks, becoming horrible people in the process, and other enable them because 'it's their day.'"
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