Marriage is looked at as the ultimate testament to two people’s love for each other. But most married couples will tell you that it’s hard work.
Sure, many people dream of the day they’ll receive that diamond engagement ring, just like these two women who said “yes” during an enviable Caribbean vacation.
Additionally, the actual wedding day could be an enchanting moment – I mean, just look at this southern couple’s breathtaking wedding on a ranch in Coushatta, LA.
But after the ceremony, a new life begins, and the to-do list is fairly big. Couples need to worry about a lot more than just what restaurant to choose for date night. For example, there’s housing and a possible commitment to a mortgage — among many other things.
Below is a list of questions you should make sure to ask your partner before agreeing to tie the knot.
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1. What are your thoughts on children?
Having children is a huge responsibility, so a “cross that bridge when we get there” kind of mentality shouldn’t apply in this case. Before taking that big leap, partners should have a clear understanding when it comes to baby talk. Do you both want children? If you are of a different faiths, what religion will your children be? What qualities are most important to you? Who will take care of them if you both want to work?
2. What about the finances?
Money issues can tear even the most loving couple apart. So before taking that next step, make sure to find out all the details, like what assets or debts you each have. Will you have separate or joint bank accounts? How much do you plan to spend, and on what do would you like to spend your money on? And the ever-controversial subject: prenup or no prenup?
3. Where will we live?!
Just because you met in New York City, Los Angeles, or Dallas doesn’t mean your partner wants to call that city their home forever. Do they want to rent or be a homeowner? It’s really important to know his or her future plans before it’s too late.
4. What are your expectations?
You may think you know your partner, but marriage is a whole different ballpark. Ask him or her what they want from you once you tie the knot. Are there certain things he or she expects you to do once you say “I do?” And this includes the chores at home!
5. What's the deal with your family?
How will each partner’s family be involved once you’re married? Are there certain traditions that he or she wants to carry over? Will your parents be able to live with you if they have to? This also includes talk about splitting up holidays and special occasions if need be.
6. What's your medical history?
It’s important to know this more so to avoid any surprises and to find ways to premeditate any problems health and/or health care may bring.
7. What's unacceptable?
Find out what’s absolutely unforgivable and also let your partner know your rules. What will happen if one partner cheats or lies? Why wait till it’s too late?
8. Do you have any boundaries?
Are there certain things your partner just doesn’t want to give up? It’s important to find that out and see if you can deal with them.
9. What annoys you?
We all have a hang-up or two. It’s important to find out the best way to deal with them and find out how to communicate them.
10. Why do you want this?
“Why do you want to marry me?” It’s really not a silly question. And, this answer should go deeper than a simple “because I love you.” Find out where their head is at and what future plans they hope to share with you.
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