Woman Lets Her Brother Have Her Late Child’s Belongings And He Sells Them To Take A Trip

"When my brother and his wife found out they were expecting (they suffered from a miscarriage after a miscarriage) and because of their financial situation I decided to lend them my son's nursery to use for their baby under the condition they give it back when they no longer need it," the woman explained. "It's an expensive nursery and the process of shipping (I live in another country) took me time and money and of course not to mention it's sentimental value."

"They were so grateful for my help and appreciated it a lot but my sister in law unfortunately lost her baby at 5 months in the pregnancy and I heard from my mother since my brother and sister in law went low contact with everyone to be able to grieve."

"I waited few months before asking for the nursery back since they no longer need it," the woman continued. "I called and asked my brother to send it back despite how cruel I sounded but I just had to get it back but I was shocked after my brother said they sold it, all of it, every single piece. I asked why and he said his wife was depressed and he needed money to take her on a vacation a month ago."

"I lost my temper and started screaming at him on the phone reminding him that this belonged to my son and only for them to borrow not sell," the woman said. "He apologized and asked me to be understanding of his wife's position as a grieving mother myself. I said no THEY should have considered how selling my son's nursery would affect me as a grieving mother and he replied that he didn't think I was being fair to scream at him for wanting to help his wife through these hard times."

"I told him that is not my problem and that I will be suing them both over the nursery and for every penny he made out of selling it. He called me nuts and hung up then called my parents. They tried to get involved after I threatened to sue and called me callous and unhinged for threatening my brother and sister in law with court and told me to let it go I don't need the nursery and it's not worth causing permenant damage in my relationship with my brother over 'few pieces of furniture.'"

One person commented, "It was so unbelievably cruel and selfish for them to sell mementos of your son for a vacation. You lending them the nursery for free represents how highly you regarded them and how you very kindly hoped that they would honor your son's memory by bringing up their own child with his nursery. And they in turn said, 'Your love and your deceased son means nothing to us. It is only worth as much as we can get breaking the set down and selling it.'"

Another person said, "The child OP [the original poster] lost was also their nephew.

"So in 3 years they never built up any relationship with their nephew to feel any kind of way about respecting his memory.

"Sue them OP. They are selfish selfish people. With no regard for their family. I can't believe they disrespected their nephews memory for a holiday."

One person chimed in to say that while they understand where the poster is coming from, this is not the way:

"Clinging onto this nursery for its sentimental value is not healthy.

"I do understand your feelings, but you absolutely should have grief counceling. I would also drop the lawsuit. It won't get the nursery back and it won't bring your baby back. Even if you win (and I highly doubt it) it will not bring relief or closure.

"As a lawyer, I have to say this: you should avoid litigation whenever you can. As a person, I am very sorry for your loss and I hope you will find your peace one day."