Some people say that love is — or should be — blind. But for others, liking someone's appearance and having some amount of physical attraction to them is a basic requirement for entering a romantic relationship.
Weight is something that's an incredibly touchy subject, especially for women. Whether you have lingering insecurities about your appearance or embrace your body type just as it is (as plus-size model Tess Holliday is famous for doing), there is one thing most can agree on: It's a sensitive topic.
That's why one man's story of struggling with his long-term girlfriend's weight has gone viral — and why so many people are reacting so strongly to his confession.
Scroll through to read more about the drama surrounding the anonymous boyfriend's story and to read about what some people are saying to him!
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[H/T: Huffington Post]
It all started when a stressed-out man made an anonymous confession to the popular social media-based photoblog, Humans of New York.
The interviewee made the delicate admission that he wants his girlfriend to lose weight.
But this isn't a situation where the woman slowly gained an abnormal (for her) amount of weight over the years, which can happen due to a variety of mental, emotional, and physical causes — including ailments like depression or a thyroid disorder.
The man revealed that his girlfriend's weight was something that had bothered him from the very beginning.
In the revealing confession, posted by Humans of New York across its social media pages, the man said:
At first, I told myself I could get past it. I said, ‘Let’s just see how it goes.’
We had excellent dates. Everything else about her was exactly what I wanted. I didn’t want to ruin something good for that one little reason.
But it’s been 1.5 years. And I feel horrible, but I just can’t get past it. And I feel like a bad person for being bothered by it.
I can’t bring myself to tell her.
We’re going to couple’s therapy next week, but I still don’t think I’ll be able to say it.
Is there any right way to ask someone to lose weight for you?
Obviously, the man knew what he was saying was taboo, which is why he opted to remain anonymous. Needless to say, reactions from Humans of New York's many followers were extremely mixed.
Some are furious with the man and believe that he is "shallow" for fixating on his girlfriend's weight.
A lot of commenters believed it was wrong of the man to let the relationship get so far when his girlfriend presumably has no idea that her weight is the root cause of a major issue for him.
Several even suggested that he break up with her immediately and allow her to find someone who doesn't think her weight is an issue at all.
Some were a bit gentler and suggested that breaking up and moving on would be the best option for the both of them — though they did warn that the man's fixation on weight might be something that causes problems again later in his life.
After all, weight fluctuates all the time, and gaining weight as you age is normal and expected!
But a few people were more sympathetic to the man's issue, acknowledging that he does truly seem to love his girlfriend and asserting that it's not his fault if he's not attracted to women of a certain body type or weight.
One user also suggested that, despite what everyone believes, maybe his girlfriend would like to know that he has a problem with her weight so she can get healthier.
Of course, it's important to remember that being fuller-figured or plus-sized doesn't automatically mean you're unhealthy. Every woman's body is different, and some are just naturally heavier.
On top of that, it's also necessary to note that we have no idea what this woman looks like — all we're getting from her boyfriend's account is that he perceives her to be larger than he'd like and that whatever size she may be is something he "can't get past."
What do you think of this man's dilemma?
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