The holidays are wonderful, since they give you some time to reflect on your loved ones and your year so far. One of the most important things to do during the holidays is to give thanks.
While it's important to tell your spouse or partner how you feel about them often, now is a great time to get those feelings organized. Tell them how they make your life so much happier, and how you're so glad you took that chance on your first date. Everyone loves hearing positive stories.
Still, some people aren't great with words. Oftentimes, actions are a better way to get the point across. Here are a few great ways to give thanks to your significant other.
1. Write a Note
It doesn't have to be a long letter, or even formal. If you have kids, it completely makes sense to jot it down on a piece of construction paper with a marker. (In fact, it might be fun and easier that way.) Whatever you have to say, say it in a card. If you're not one for words, perhaps you can jot down a poem written by someone else that expresses how you feel. Have fun with it, and have it reflect you and your relationship.
2. Compliment Them on Specifics
It's one thing to say, "I love you." It's another to say something like, "I love the potatoes you made for Thanksgiving. They're my favorite part of the meal every year." Complimenting specific things you know your partner worked hard on is a great way to show you appreciate them and are taking notice.
Not only that, but a compliment regarding a skill may encourage your partner to keep going. Sometimes, all someone needs is a little bit of encouragement to follow their inner passion. So making note of it — especially in front of others — can serve as a small boost of self-esteem.
3. Treat Them to a Fancy Dinner
Of course, Thanksgiving is a great time to give thanks. But consider seeing beyond that. Present your partner with a reservation for the future at a higher-class restaurant that you've made excuses not to check out before. Hire a babysitter and dress up. Make a special occasion of it. Remember that sometimes, these experiences are a great way to build on your relationship while celebrating the fact that it's so special.
4. Tackle Their Least-Favorite Chore
Does your significant other hate vacuuming? Maybe you can gift them a robotic vacuum — or take matters into your own hands. When you do something for a partner that takes some of the burden off their shoulders, you're helping them decompress. You're also showcasing the fact that you're willing to lend a hand when it comes to everyday tasks. If you're with someone you see a future with, it's a huge sign that you're happy with shared responsibilities. It's even better if you aren't asked to pitch in but do it as a nice surprise.
5. Make Them a Photo Book
Photo books are relatively easy to make these days. Services like Snapfish help you take more control over the project to make sure it's perfect. If the two of you went on a vacation together, it's a good way to preserve memories and show your partner that it was a trip you'll never forget. Or if you got married, even better. Preserving memories together is a good way to show someone how grateful you are to have them in your life.
6. Pay Tribute Through a Speech
This method may not be for everyone. But if you happen to enjoy public speaking, nothing is better than having words of love and appreciation stated out loud. Make sure not to say anything that may be personal or might accidentally embarrass them in front of other family members. If you plan to give your speech before Thanksgiving dinner, you can say something like, "None of this would have been possible without my partner. They took care of the important things to make this day happen." Or, "I'm incredibly thankful for my significant other for enduring these hard years with me. I couldn't imagine getting through it with anyone else by my side."
7. Give Them a Shoulder Rub for No Reason
Sometimes, partners appreciate physical touch as a way to know they're loved. It's also a great way to connect. Giving your partner an impromptu shoulder rub at the end of the day is a great way to tell them that you recognize their stress and hardships. It's also a nice way to be close and feel connected. It doesn't even have to be for long. Just 10 minutes of undivided attention is enough to say "I appreciate you."
8. Listen to Them
It sounds simple, and it's possible that you already think you do this. But when was the last time you gave your partner a platform? Work harder on asking them about their day and on listening without feeling the need to give unexpected advice. Sometimes, a significant other just wants to vent. Giving them a window where they feel heard is a great way to show them that you appreciate them. Work on asking follow-up questions to keep the conversation going.
9. Buy Them Flowers, Just Because
It's not true that flowers are only for women. Flowers are beautiful, colorful, and smell good. Who wouldn't love a fresh bouquet?
Of course, it doesn't necessarily mean that you need to gift flowers. Does your partner like gummy candy? Or chocolate? Or maybe just a cold fountain soda from a convenience store? Anticipating something they'd like and getting it unprompted is a great way to let someone know they're appreciated. Small gestures like this can really add up.
10. Make Them a Playlist of Your 'Songs'
Have you ever thought what would be on the playlist of your relationship? If certain songs became "your" songs based on how they helped your connection with your partner grow, they deserve to be honored. If you still use CDs, burn a playlist to give at a random time, if not Thanksgiving. If not, put together the perfect playlist online and send a link to your partner. Let them know that you hope to add to it in the future.
