Husband Tells Wife Being ‘Head Of Household’ Gives Him The Right To Film Her At Home 24/7

In-home cameras and recording devices are questionable, especially if one person in the house isn't totally comfortable knowing they're being recorded. One woman is opening up on Reddit about the fact that her husband insists she leave their camera on at all times.

She begins, "About 4 years ago when my husband of 10 + years and I bought our house, we got a security system. Included in the bundle was an indoor-only camera. While I liked the idea of having it monitor for movement when we weren't home/sleeping, my husband wanted it on all the time, even while we were home."

At first, they used the camera to check on their kids.

"This made me somewhat uncomfortable but I came around to the idea," she continues. "We'd use it almost like a baby monitor to check on our 3 and 6 year olds when we were in the bathroom and heard crying or whatever. Our 3 year old was non-verbal at the time and sometimes his older brother would craft up some crazy story as to how he got hurt ."

Or they used it for household tasks.

"We'd occasionally use the camera to figure out what time we put the pizza in the oven if we forgot to start a timer, or to figure out who stole the cookies from the cookie jar."

Lately, she's wanted to turn it off.

"Anyways, fast forward to a couple months ago," the woman explains. "One day I'm chilling at home by myself while the kiddos were at school and I just kinda realized it's weird to have a camera recording me chilling and watching shows. So I turned it off. I've mentioned multiple times that I don't think we need the cameras on, but in retrospect I should have had a convo with him before turning it off. This made my husband upset. Now if I turn it off, he turns it back on."

Her husband wants to keep it on.

"We've had multiple conversations about it. I feel like the kids are old enough now that we dont need to monitor them like this anymore. And using a camera to prove/disprove their honestly is not the best parenting. But he wants the camera on 24/7…. even if we both are right there watching the kids. But I feel like that argument is an uphill battle. So I simply don't want the camera recording me when I'm home alone or when it's just me and our kids."

He says it's his right as 'head of household' to keep it on.

"He claims that me not wanting the camera on is not respecting him as head of the household and he will repeatedly turn it on anytime I turn it off," the woman says. "If he's at home then he notices it's off right away. If he's at work he'll turn it on in a few hours (no, it doesn't notify him that it was turned off). I feel like it's weird and controlling."

He gave her a few reasons why, but she's not convinced.

"But I don't have any other good reason for not wanting it on. He wants to still use it to monitor the kids and use to figure out what time something happened. Sometimes he'll use it for things like helping the kids figure out where they put their book when they got home or something."

She's not sure what to do about the situation.

"We live in a pretty safe area and have a doorbell camera too, so I don't think home invasion while we're home is his concern (he's not mentioned that as a reason). His opposition to me turning it off when I'm home alone is that then I don't turn it back on, so there's no footage if we 'need' to look back."

People see major red flags.

The top comment clearly points out a huge issue in what her husband is telling her. The person wrote, "And you should probably be paying more attention to the massive red flag that is 'the head of household'. Those are the words of someone that doesn’t value you as an equal partner in your marriage. Not sure what your work situation is, but the non-paid domestic work of women needs to be recognised and regarded equally with the financial contributions made. ."

They also suspect him of cheating.

A second person wrote, "He's probably using the camera to make sure she's at home so he can be out with who ever and know where wifey is at. He can also see her calling him and what her body language says or how she's acting. That camera would have an accident in my house."

There could be more cameras, too.

A third person cautioned, "He wants to see her to make sure she is at home and not out somewhere where she could run into him with his 'side piece.' She should check her car for tracking as well. A mechanic at a car repair can locate it for her if there is one. She should check her purse too. Also, look in the bedroom for cameras. The one she might know about and the one she DOESN'T know about. Also, she should check her phone for tracking as well. Somebody who is obsessed with the living room camera being on hasn't stopped surveillance of other areas of her life. This is looking bad for her."