Planning a wedding can be tough, and that's been especially true in the last year or so. Many couples have had to delay their weddings by months if not years, and they've also had to find brand-new wedding venues and vendors to make their weddings happen at all.
One dad recently took to Reddit to share that he's put his own daughter into a wedding planning nightmare … but for a legitimate reason. He starts by sharing that two years ago, his stepdaughter got married at his home. It turns out it's pretty ideal for weddings. He explained, "We have a meadow in our backyard that is able to accomodate a large number of people, as well as a empty clean barn that can be setup for dinner tables."
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His daughter was set to get married last year, but the health crisis delayed her nuptials and also caused her to lose her wedding venue. So she turned to her dad to see if she could also get married at his home, but he said no.
His daughter's mom sounds like a lot.
The dad isn't trying to be mean, and the reason he said no has nothing to do with his daughter directly:
"I had a restraining order against her mother, my ex, and a few members of her family after threats and harrassment were directed towards my wife and myself."
The restraining order is expired, but he doesn't feel safe.
He goes on to add that while the restraining order has expired and he hasn't been bothered by his ex and her family, he doesn't feel comfortable hosting the wedding at the home where he lives with his wife.
"This has upset my daughter greatly and she's screamed at me which she's never done."
He even offered to pay for a new venue.
The dad says that even if the wedding is outside, guests would still access the inside of his home since that's where the bathrooms are. So he offered to give his daughter $15,000 to find a new venue. Unfortunately, "now she's adamant about it being our home."
His daughter took the issue to Facebook.
To make the problem even worse, now the daughter has taken the entire issue to Facebook … and everyone is accusing the man's wife and stepdaughter of ruining her wedding, even though they had nothing to do with the decision. He feels like he should give in:
"I'm planning on giving in and letting my daughter use our home for the wedding later this year. But I'm going to tell my wife and stepdaughter not to be around for it. Which I'm sure is going to create a bunch of other issues."
He's asking Reddit what he should do.
The dad turned to Reddit for advice, and they were only too happy to give it. Some people suggested he rent outside toilets and hire security for the wedding, but another commenter brought up an excellent point:
"You were granted a restraining order against your Ex and multiple family members. . .that means the court was convinced that these people were dangerous.
"DO NOT give into your daughter's tantrum and allow dangerous people back into your physical proximity and property. DO NOT allow dangerous people access to your family."
They also think the ex had a hand in this.
Another person theorized that the man's ex might be telling his daughter hurtful things:
"I would bet money on her mom laying it on to her about how her father must prefer his stepdaughter and that sort of thing. Adult children can still be hurt and weaponized, particularly if there are any old wounds from childhood that can be picked at."
His daughter's behavior is also questionable.
People are also surprised by the daughter's behavior, and one person even called her a bully: "The daughter's bullying him via social media and other people to get what she wants with absolutely no regard towards her father's feelings."
The man updated his original post with new information.
The dad returned and updated the post, noting that his daughter has found a solution and he's no longer invited to the wedding:
"I got an angry call from my mother who says she is hosting her wedding instead. And that I will not be welcomed at the wedding.
"My father will be walking my daughter down the aisle instead of me."
The new information has people confused.
This new update is puzzling, and many people are wondering why the man's parents are siding against him. One commenter asked:
"Was the new wife involved before the divorce? Did his daughter grow up at this house? Why does his family side with daughter?"
Ultimately, it's tough to know what's going on.
In the end, most people agree: There are details missing here. A commenter noted:
"I can't offer judgement here without specifics. People get restraining orders for all sorts of reasons, some serious some honestly petty. If this issue didn't exist you should absolutely offer your home to your daughter for her wedding so I would need to know the severity of the issues that lead to the restraining order to offer judgement."
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