Jennifer Lopez’s First Ex-Husband Says All Her Failed Marriages Are Her Fault

Pass the salt.

Though his short-lived marriage to Jennifer Lopez ended almost 30 years ago, Ojani Noa is still smarting.

The personal trainer/boxer/OnlyFans model went on an Instagram tirade the other day after Lopez’s interview with Howard Stern went viral.

At one point during the chat about her storied career and lack of lasting romantic relationships, Stern got personal, asking the four-time married Kiss of the Spider Woman star if she had “truly been loved.”

After a deep sigh, Lopez answered, “No.”

Without naming names, the multi-hyphenate entertainer explained herself:

“What I learned is it’s not that I’m not lovable,” said the 56-year-old Bronx bombshell. “It’s that they’re not capable.”

“They can’t love,” the shock jock sympathized.

“They don’t have it in them,” Lopez agreed, adding the marriages did net her material things like rings and houses. “They need to appreciate the little person inside of them.”

Noa, her first husband (1997-98), didn’t take that diss lightly. In the recent digital diatribe, he went low, accusing Lopez of lying, cheating on him, and being an opportunist.

Other famous men in Lopez’s rearview mirror include baller Alex Rodriguez, to whom she was engaged; salsa icon Marc Anthony, with whom she shares 17-year-old twins; and dancer Cris Judd.

“Stop putting us down. Stop putting me down with your victim card,” Noa wrote with a sprinkling of typos and NSFW language. “The problem [is] not us. Not me. The problem [is] you… You have had good relationships. Me, for example.”

The onetime waiter’s rant went on to say that he truly was in love with the (now) superstar at the time and sacrificed moving to L.A. for her. (The two met at the Estefans’ Larios on the Beach while she was in town shooting the 1996 thriller Blood and Wine.)

The 51-year-old Cuba native, who never remarried, claims he is an “amazing, loving person” and it was Lopez who decided to choose “fame and fortune” over him.

“Tell the truth for once,” his seething post concludes. “Let people know you are the problem. You should be embarrassed, ashamed of yourself.”

As of Monday, Lopez hadn’t responded, at least publicly. The only hint of shade was her Insta Story with clips from the viral sit-down with Stern, writing, “Fun interview.”

This isn’t the first time Noa has brought up his ex with a sob story. Last year he spoke to the Daily Mail after news broke she was divorcing Husband No. 4, Ben Affleck.

“I was there at the beginning of her career supporting her, ­dealing with her anxieties and insecurities,” said the former model who was famously barred from releasing a J.Lo sex tape and tell-all book. “I was a really good husband because I believe in marriage. When we divorced, I was heartbroken. I feel when she got what she wanted, I was no longer needed.”

Madeleine Marr
Miami Herald
(TNS)

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