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Mel Schilling, a relationship expert known for her appearances on the British and Australian versions of Married at First Sight, has died after a battle with cancer. She was 54. Schilling’s husband, Gareth Brisbane, confirmed the news to the BBC, noting that she “passed away peacefully” on Tuesday, March 24, “surrounded by love.”
“To most of you, she was Mel Schilling – matriarch of MAFS and queen of reality TV. To [our 10-year-old daughter] Maddie and me, she was our wee Melsie: an incredible mum, role model, and soulmate,” he said.
Brisbane detailed his wife’s resilience as she battled colon cancer that spread to her lungs and eventually her brain.
“This is a woman who, through two years of chemotherapy, when she could barely lift her head from the pillow, never complained and never stopped showing courage, grace, compassion and empathy, and never missed a day of filming,” he said. “Life can be beautiful, and life can be incredibly cruel. But ultimately, life is fleeting, fragile, and tomorrow is promised to no one.”
“If you can do anything to honour Mel, please live life to the full, love your people well, and try not to sweat the small stuff,“ Brisbane continued. ”I had 15 wonderful years with my soulmate, and it was the privilege of my life to be by her side. For that, I will be forever thankful.”
The news of Schilling’s passing comes less than two weeks after she told her Instagram followers there was “nothing further” her oncology team could do to treat her cancer.
“My light is starting to fade — and quickly. But I am still here, still fighting, and surrounded by the most incredible love,” she captioned a March 12 post. “Simple tasks have become incredibly difficult and I am relying on my beautiful family to look after me. I honestly don’t know how long I have left, but I do know I will fight to my last breath and will be surrounded by the love and support of my people.”
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Schilling appeared on 12 seasons of the Australian version of Married at First Sight and five seasons of the British version.
The reality show follows singles who meet for the first time at the altar, agreeing to marry a stranger. Relationship experts like Schilling match the couples.
Channel 4, which broadcasts Married at First Sight UK, released an Instagram statement reacting to Schilling’s death on Tuesday. The network praised Schilling’s “fierce advocacy for other women, her passion for healthy relationships and her mission to unite people in love,” all of which was reflected on Married at First Sight.
The network added that Schilling was “not just a colleague but a friend” to many Channel 4 employees.
“[She was] someone who radiated joy, warmth and optimism, who energized every room she walked into with humor and positivity,” the statement said.
Schilling was diagnosed with colon cancer in 2023. The cancer later metastasized to her lungs, and she underwent 16 rounds of chemotherapy. Schilling was slated to begin a clinical trial this month, but she learned in December 2025 that the cancer had spread to her brain and become untreatable.
Despite her declining health, Schilling continued to care about the future of the reality show she loved. John Aiken of Married at First Sight Australia will take Schilling’s place in the new season of Married at First Sight UK, which is currently filming. Channel 4 noted in a recent Instagram post that the decision was made “with Mel’s blessing.”
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