Special announcements can be delicate sometimes. While it would be lovely to assume that, no matter your timing, people in your inner circle would be happy for you, that's not always the case. Sometimes, what friends and family have going on in their own lives can mean that your own announcements might feel hurtful.
That's the case for one woman who took to Reddit to ask if she was in the wrong for announcing her pregnancy on the same day her cousin announced she was engaged.
Turns out, this all went down in a group text with family.
The poster writes, "I (F30) am apart of a extended family group chat on facebook. My family rarely chat in the group unless there is a big life event happening or we are organsing a family event. Earlier this year, one of my aunties asked if anyone had any life updates to share."
Her cousin announced she was engaged and everyone happily congratulated her. Then, wanting to tell her family that she, too, had a big life event, the poster wrote back that she was expecting a baby. Everyone congratulated her, as well, and she didn't think anything of it.
That was, until she got a follow-up text from her cousin who was basically enraged. "A couple of days later, my cousin messages a long paragraph absolutely furious," she explains. "She accused me of stealing her spotlight announcing my pregnancy on the same day as her engagement, although she seemed happy for me in the group chat the day before."
The poster says she did her best to try to repair things. "I immediately apologised to her and felt so guilty after the fact," she writes. "My cousin never messages me back after my apology and I didn't talk to her again for the rest of my pregnancy."
Through no fault of the poster, the situation became much worse when the baby was born on her cousin's birthday. "To top it all off several months later, my beautiful baby daughter was born on the same day as my cousin's birthday (co-incidence right?)," the poster shares. But now, she's second-guessing announcing the birth to her family at all!
"I have very recently given birth to a beautiful daughter and I wanted to make a baby announcement on the day she was born. However I could not bring myself to do it because my cousin just turned 30 which is a huge milestone."
The cousins are still not speaking over the whole ordeal! Sometimes, timing really is everything. But sometimes, timing really can't be helped.
Who is in the wrong?
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