Mindy Kaling is a single mom who doesn't need anyone's sympathy — or their setups.
The triple threat (actress, writer, and producer) opened up on the latest episode of Meghan Markle’s Archetypes podcast about how she's sometimes treated as a single parent. Mindy revealed that it's often a little mind-boggling.
“When you’re a certain age and you’re a single woman, and if you go to a party, it bums people out,” she said. "Even your existence as a single woman in a party where it’s married people, or just a regular party with single guys or something, you get this feeling that you’re like, Oh, I’m changing the vibe here, because everyone’s worried about me or sad for me.”
It's a pretty relatable statement. Single moms often get treated as if they are missing a vital component of their family. But Mindy has always been pretty open about being content raising her kids on her own. She's definitely not in desperate need of a partner.
Still, the assumption persists. Mindy says that, more often than not, it leads friends to set her up with pretty much anyone they can find. "They want to set me up with some loser they know. And I’m like, 'I’m okay. I’m a rich, successful woman with great clothes and a nice family,'" Mindy said.
Mindy has two beautiful children. Her first child, Katherine, is 4 years old, and her son, Spencer, is 2. While Mindy didn't imagine she'd be parenting on her own, she's not upset about it either.
Like a lot of young girls, Mindy says she used to write in a diary about her future husband and kids, but she's completely content that her life looks different from how she imagined it. “Now I'm 43, I have two kids. I live with a nanny whom I love. She's like my great friend, and [I have] my dad, my stepmom — you know, my immediate family. It's funny how different it is from what I imagined when I was 13, 14 years old.”
It's definitely not the first time Mindy has talked about her contentment as a single mom. In January, she opened up to Yahoo Life about the possibility of a future partnership. "I think of myself as my kids' parent, and if I have someone that comes into my life down the line, that would be great, but I don't think it's their responsibility. It's mine,” she told the outlet.
"They're just, like, my blood; they're my responsibility," she continued. "I'm not in a place now where I would necessarily want or need that from somebody else, to have someone else step in as a co-parent."
While Mindy is really just being transparent about her life, talking about her contentment with single motherhood is a little bit revolutionary and totally appreciated.
