The past few years have changed Thanksgiving. Usually, it's a huge family celebration, with people flying all around the country to partake in the feast and crash in their childhood homes. But these days, it's become far more common to stay at home. While it can take a lot of stress out of the holiday, it's still … different. How can you express the same amount of kindness and gratitude when you're in a completely different state from your family?
Sure, you might be missing out on your mom's favorite mashed potatoes. But it's the best thing to do if you're still (very reasonably) worried about getting on a plane while we're still in the midst of a global health crisis.
Luckily, if we've learned anything during these strange times, it's that change isn't necessarily a bad thing. And technology can strengthen our connections when we can't be there in person. But here are some other ways you can say thanks to the people you won't be seeing this year.
1. Create a Fun Video, or Video Tour
If you've recently moved and are still getting settled, it's reasonable for you to sit out the big family Thanksgiving this year. Why not invite your loved ones to check out your home with a video? While videos aren't quite as personal as real-time video chats, it'll give you a lot more control. Plus, you can edit the video and personalize it before sending it along.
Showcase your new kitchen, along with what you're planning to eat for your big feast. If you have kids, give them some time to share their own personalized messages to family members they haven't seen in a while. They'll also have a great opportunity to give thanks. A video can easily turn into a keepsake that can be watched over and over again.
2. Have Your Family Create Cards
It's actually better if you don't buy them in the store. Having your kids craft their own for their long-distance loved ones is much more special. Adults can participate as well — you're never too old to craft, and your family will adore the fact that you used an unconventional method to keep in touch and spread love.
Plus, there's something about a handmade card that just makes people feel more appreciated. You're showing that you care enough about them to create something beautiful from scratch.
3. Go Around the Table and Talk About the Things You Love Most About Long-Distance Family
Just because they aren't there doesn't mean they shouldn't be discussed. If you're unable to see your favorite aunts and uncles, bring them up right before the feast and ask your family to list something they love about them. That way, everyone's thinking of them — it's the next best thing to having them there in person.
4. Plan a Family Trivia Game Through Zoom
You might be a little tired of digital meetups, but they can be a lot of fun — and leave you feeling thankful for your extended family. If you want to have some fun, ask your long-distance family members to connect for just a brief moment during the day. Put together a fun family trivia game, and mail the prize to the winner, along with a little note saying how thankful you are that they participated. Some questions to ask include "What's mom's favorite type of holiday pie?" and "Who in this family thinks that stuffing is the best Thanksgiving side?"
5. Write a Personalized Haiku and Find a Creative Way To Present It
When was the last time you wrote a haiku? The popular style of poetry is easy enough for everyone in your family to figure out. Consider giving thanks to long-distance relatives by writing a personalized poem. You can consider framing it for a creative holiday gift, or even have it cross-stitched to turn it into a special present. Everyone loves knowing they've made a difference in the world, and this is a beautiful way to thank someone for being special.
6. Post a Sentimental Facebook Status
Sometimes, being publicly acknowledged feels pretty good. If you want to give thanks, Facebook is still a great way to get the message across. Consider giving everyone a small shout-out, or find a few select family members who've made this past year even better for you. The acknowledgement will make them feel special on such an important day.
7. Share Recipes
Thanksgiving is all about the food — and that means that family can be represented through the dishes you make. In order to pay tribute to your family, you might want to use some of their favorite recipes for the big meal. That way you can feel good knowing you're eating the same stuffing that your sister used to make, and preparing the cranberry sauce just like your grandmother. Let them be represented through each dish.
It's also good to ask your family for their recipes ahead of time, since it'll let them know that their food helps make the holiday what it is.
8. Send Care Packages
While it depends on where Hanukkah falls that year, typically gifts aren't exchanged until December. Why not change that up? Send family members a small "care package" prior to Thanksgiving filled with something special. Maybe it's a local dish or ingredient they love that they can't find at grocery stores in their own town. Or perhaps it's just something like a handmade scarf, so that you can add a bit of comfort to their lives. It doesn't have to be anything big — just something that says, "I'm thankful that you're in my life."
9. Make Them Jewelry
If you happen to be skilled with jewelry making, this is a great idea. But even if not, a beaded craft that your kids put together will still work wonderfully. Give bracelets and send them out before Thanksgiving, with a request to wear them during the holiday. Even though you and your family won't be able to see each other, they'll have a good way to think of you every time they look at what you made. Plus, it's a way to feel like you're all in this together, despite being far.
