Single moms everywhere deal with much more than a woman, or man, that's co-parenting.
That extra set of hands, support, love, and brain power, is all much more valuable than most may think.
Not only is that a disadvantage, but they also are constantly judged and talked to as if there is something missing.
While some cases that might be the truth, that someone can be missing from their life, that doesn't mean that the person missing would have added value, or that it's the single parent's 'fault.'
Haley DePass is a single mom to a beautiful baby boy, Julian.
Her baby's father is hardly in the picture and people always have their two cents to put into that topic. But she's sick of it.
She took to her blog in order to give her two cents, about how she can and will be a mother that will raise her son to be a man, with or without, a man in her life.
DePass talks about how often single moms everywhere get "the look," and the questions to follow.
People somehow think that they have a right to pass judgment on raising children, that are not their own.
Often, DePass says people reply to her single parenting with, "at least he'll have your dad and brothers to be good male figures in his life!"
And DePass's response is clear here, why does a male need to be the figure in her son's life, to teach him how to be a man?
All that she is as a woman, is what will make her son grow up to be the well-rounded person that he needs to be. Man or woman, the same values, morals, and rules will apply.
When it comes to dating, DePass becomes hesitant because of these assumptions. She does not want a man to think he has to fill the shoes of a father figure.
Although she'd obviously love to find someone to spend her life with, she doesn't need to anyway.
"It's no one else’s job to fulfill that male role-model position for my son, because even if I don’t find anyone to spend the rest of my life with, I’m not a failure for not finding a man for my son to look up to. And I don’t think this idea is so radical or progressive."
DePass knows that she has the intelligence, strength, and love to make sure that her son grows up to be the man he is meant to be.
She will instill all of the characteristics he needs in order to be a respected and well-rounded man one day.
There is no one in the world who can tell her that someone else or adding someone else could make her son any better than she'll guide him to be.
Day after day, DePass is the one there for Julian.
Motherhood is her full-time job, and she takes that job seriously and willingly.
After tough days, they're each other's shoulder to lean on, and clearly, they have a bond that will outlast any single-mom bullies.
Moral of the story, being a single mom doesn't mean her son is "missing out" on having a dad. I don't think she could have said it any better.
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