There are few things more personal than sex. How you do it, who you do it with, and how often, are all the details that are your business and yours alone. Despite the limited depictions of sex and sexuality in mainstream media, there are numerous ways in which people engage sexually. And as long as those ways are consensual and safe, everyone should have the freedom to participate — or abstain — as they choose.
One 34-year-old influencer has chosen the latter, abstaining from sex and remaining a virgin until she finds the right person.
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Lauren says she doesn't carry the trauma many women her age do.
Lauren Harkins says that she is content not to be weighed down with the relationship baggage many women her age are carrying, the New York Post reports.
Harkins, who’s had “no boyfriend since birth,” has not only been perpetually single, she doesn’t believe in casual sex. So she has yet to have sex with anyone.
Harkins has decided to share her story on social media. “I genuinely don’t feel bothered or embarrassed about it in any way,” she said. “If anything, I’m grateful because I know I’ve saved myself from a lot of problems and messes along the way.”
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Lauren believes casual sex is 'repulsive.'
Lauren said that she’s waiting for the perfect person. She shared that in order to be physical with a man, she’d like to share a strong emotional and spiritual connection first. So far, she just hasn’t found that. So she’s waiting.
Lauren finds the idea of casual sex “repulsive” and is proud that she didn’t have sex to simply “get it over with.”
“I believe having casual sex is more emotionally damaging than people would like to think, and there is nothing about that way of life that appeals to me,” she said.
Lauren is open to a romantic relationship.
Despite her history, Lauren does want to experience sharing an intimate relationship with someone, when the time is right. Still, Lauren says it’s not something she’s rushing. “I’m quite happy and content on my own at this point.” For now, she’s enjoying the freedom of being a single, celibate woman who can easily travel the world.
Lauren doesn't want to be married or have children.
Lauren didn’t know if she wanted to settle down in her teens and 20s. But now, in her 30s, she’s open to the possibility of a romantic relationship. The commitment might end there though. Lauren does not want to be married or have children.
“I didn’t set out in life to be a 34-year-old virgin, but dating has never been a priority for me,” she explained. Ultimately, Lauren says, “Everyone moves at their own pace and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.”
