Planning a wedding should be a time that's really exciting and fun. A lot of couples have had to reimagine their own wedding planning and the weddings themselves due to the ongoing health crisis, but there are still plenty of ways to have a wedding right now that are just as magical as pre-health crisis times.
One woman has run into a snag that has nothing to do with a virus and that's just flat-out confusing: Her mom has married the father of her fiancé, and now mom is insisting that the engaged couple break things off.
If you're confused, don't worry: The situation is really bizarre! Here's how it all went down.
The woman's mom cheated on her dad a while ago.
The woman lays out the situation on Reddit. She writes that she and her fiancé have been together for five years: "For context, my mom (50F) had an affair with a coworker when I was 16, leading to my parents' divorce. She has been single ever since (going on dates but no serious relationships). I have a good relationship with my dad and his new wife. Sadly, my fiancé's mom passed 2 years ago due to cancer and his dad (53M) has been single since."
Her own fiancé proposed last year.
She goes on to say that her fiancé proposed last year, but that COVID-19 slowed down their plans:
"My fiancé proposed last year but our wedding was delayed due to COVID. Our families had never met up to this point because his family lives in South Carolina, whereas we're in North Carolina (where we went to college), around a 3 hour's drive away from his dad. 3 months ago, in January 2021, we decided that it was time to have our families meet for the first time to discuss our upcoming wedding in June 2021."
All the parents were finally able to meet and discuss the wedding.
Happily, the couple were finally able to get everyone together so they could meet and discuss the wedding plans:
"My dad and his wife, my fiancé's dad, and my mom all met at our place to meet and discuss the wedding. This went well, albeit there was some tension between my mom and my dad."
Then the woman got some surprising news.
Everything seemed fine until the woman's mother called her with some startling news:
"This morning, out of the blue, my mom called me and announced that she had eloped. I was shocked as she had not been dating anyone to my knowledge. Upon questioning, it turns out that she and my fiancé's dad had been dating in secret since that meeting in January and had married in secret yesterday, making my fiancé my 'stepbrother.'"
The worst is yet to come.
One top of that, her mother made a demand that is pretty awful:
"She said that I should now cancel my wedding because it would be inappropriate to marry my 'stepbrother.'"
The woman got really mad at her mom.
Understandably, the woman is really, really angry:
"I'm absolutely horrified. I shouted at my mom, saying she 'just loves ruining my life' and called her selfish – first she cheated on my dad, and now she went and married my fiancé's dad, knowing full well I was about to marry my fiancé."
The mom didn't back down.
The mom didn't drop her position:
"My mom then said I was still young and I'd have the chance to meet someone new, but she's old and 'has to take every opportunity she's got,' and so I was an ungrateful [expletive] for not approving of her marriage. She then accused me of wanting her to die alone."
There's one more plot twist.
Then the woman reveals a bombshell: She's also 12 weeks pregnant with her fiancé's child, but their families don't know yet.
"I think I should be allowed to marry my fiancé as we met first. I'm also 12 weeks pregnant with my fiancé's kid so that complicates matters more (we haven't told anybody yet)."
So now she's asking: Should she really have to give up her relationship?
The woman decided to ask Reddit how they see the situation. Plenty of people were quick to say she should definitely not cancel her own wedding, with one person pointing out that obviously her mom knew something she was doing wasn't okay, "if mom didn't think there was something wrong with dating her child's future FIL, why did she hide it? It's not like they kept it secret for a few months before making it public because they wanted to avoid the drama of dating while their kids are engaged – they dated in secret and then got married!"
Some people say the woman should rethink her relationship with her mom.
One person laid it out pretty clearly: "Don't cancel your wedding, but I would consider canceling your relationship with your mother. Not even necessarily because she married your fiancé's dad."
Another person says to let the mom live with the consequences of her own actions.
"She made her bed. Let her lay in it, and roll the sheets and comforter all the way around herself."
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