There are a lot of reasons why people choose to make temporary or permanent changes to their own bodies, and truly the decision to do so should be left up to the individual in question. Sometimes, though, people want a little feedback, and they often turn toward those they know the best.
One man recently wrote on Reddit that his wife has complained about her nose as long as he's known her. He recently suggested maybe she should get the nose job she's been talking about for years … and now she's devastated.
He says his wife is really insecure.
"I (31 M) love my (30 F) wife, we’ve been married for 3 years and there’s nothing I would change about her except that she’s really insecure about her nose and that she get aggressive over it when I try to comfort her," he begins.
He loves the nose she has.
He explains, "For as long as I remember, she has always hated her nose and mentions it everyday and when I would try to comfort her and tell her it’s beautiful and she doesn’t have to change anything, she would get aggressive and yell that I’m a liar."
He finally suggested maybe she should look into rhinoplasty if she wants it so badly.
"2 weeks ago she got a raise at her job and today she suggested the idea of getting a nose job," he continues. "I said that if she’s that insecure about it to the point that it’s affecting her mental health then she should get it done."
She got very upset.
"She got extremely upset over this and said that I should’ve said no to the idea. She left the house to go to her mother’s and I haven’t been able to get in touch with her since."
It seems like a lose-lose situation.
Many commenters agree on one thing: There's not really much he can do at this point. As one person put it, "Literally OP [(the original poster)] can’t win in this situation. I’d just start ignoring the wife’s comments about her nose at this point."
But his wife might not be trying to work against him.
Some were quick to condemn his wife, but others were more generous. One person wrote, "She doesn’t necessarily want to be angry with him. It might just be that she wants to outsource her insecurity. If she can convince herself that he hates her nose, it’s easier to avoid dealing with the fact that she hates her nose. It’s not healthy, but it’s not malicious."
Ultimately she needs to make a decision.
One person understands where she's coming from, but thinks the wife needs to figure this out immediately:
"I feel for your wife’s insecurities, I really do. It’s tough hating your nose (I hated mine for all my life, finally got a nose job half a year ago and I’m super happy).
"But she put you in a really tough position. I think it’s really unfair of her to take her frustrations out on you, because really what are you supposed to do? You’ve tried comforting her but she got aggressive with that. And now you’ve given her a bit more of a realistic answer (kinda depends on your exact wording but) and she’s upset at that too.
"It’s just really something she has to work out herself – be it more self love/therapy or actually getting the surgery."
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