When I first read the title of husband Sean Dunbar's column, "Why I won't let my wife quit her job," I have to admit — I cringed a little.
The idea of a woman needing permission from her husband makes me uncomfortable.
I thought couples were supposed to make decisions together, raise their children together, and decide their future together?
But the more I read Dunbar's column, the more I realized that he truly coming from a loving place with deep concerns about what his wife finds fulfilling in life.
Like many moms, Laura Dunbar worked her way through college while raising a child and then went to work.
Unfortunately, like many moms, when she became pregnant with her second child, her boss avoided promoting her in fear of her maternity leave. So she quit.
Dunbar noticed that his wife is happier when she is a mom with a career rather than a mom without one.
Moreover, he wants his daughter to have a mom who is independent so that she can be independent as well.
While there is definitely not one single thing wrong with being a stay-at-home mom, and anyone raised by one knows that, it is equally important to let our little girls know that they have choices.
Before you brush off Dunbar's ideas, check them out below and decide for yourself!
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"As I get older, more of my friends are telling their wives to quit their jobs and be stay-at-home moms."
"Yes, being a stay-at-home mom has many benefits for the entire family. But I want better for my wife. Am I a bad man for wanting this? Am I being a male chauvinist for even saying that?"
"I met my wife while she was in college. She was 20 and pregnant with our daughter by her junior year.The pregnancy was a few years after I got out of the Marines, and I was chasing my own dream to get a college diploma. My wife immediately said she was going to drop out of college to focus on work and earn a living so we could afford the baby."
"I knew what college meant to my wife and her family. I told her that giving up on a real career was not an option. I dropped out of college and got a full-time night job at a maximum security prison and two part-time day jobs. I also joined the Navy reserve for the benefits. While I worked hard, my wife worked harder."
"I watched what that struggle made my wife. She holds her head high and tells people how hard she worked for her diploma. After college, we both started new careers. My wife has always been an all-star at work. She would come home in the greatest mood, talking about her accomplishments. My wife was reaching for goals and achieving goals. She was truly filled with confidence and self-worth."
"Then the second pregnancy came. My wife started getting overlooked for promotions because her employer feared her maternity leave. This crushed her and changed her whole demeanor. She was embarrassed and disappointed to be pregnant in a competitive workforce."
"I was so afraid of my wife becoming stagnant. Then, she found something [else]. For the past six months, she's been working from 7 a.m. to 4 p.m. — and she loves it. My wife picks up the kids, takes our daughter to tae kwon do and reads to them before bed."
"I don't want our daughter — or my wife — to ever be in a bad marriage and feel they are stuck because they have no experience, no options or can't make enough money to sustain themselves. A self-sufficient, independent professional also keeps a husband
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