The internet can be like the Wild, Wild West, with mean people hiding behind their keyboards, leaving nasty comments. Conversely, it can be a place to turn to when you need some outside support. One bride recently turned to Mumsnet, a London-based discussion site similar to Reddit, for this very thing.
She explained how she wanted her brothers to walk her down the aisle instead of her father. Her brothers essentially raised her after her mother died, with her father financially supporting them but often physically absent from their lives. She wanted to make sure this was OK, and the internet rallied behind her decision.
The bride used the username BlueLavender1. Her wedding is in three months. "My mom died when I was 7 and my eldest 2 brothers (20, 18 at the time) essentially became my surrogate parents," she began her story.
She titled her post "Dad ruining my wedding." She clearly is fearing the worst. She also explained that one of her brothers even dropped out of college to take care of her.
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"My dad still had a job and provided for us monetarily but he would disappear for months on end and I never had a proper relationship with him," she went on to explain. "It was my brothers who did my homework with me, made my dinner, showered me, baked cakes for school, signed my school forms, took me prom dress shopping, volunteered for school trips. In every essence they were my dads."
This is why the bride felt it more appropriate to ask her brothers to walk her down the aisle. She is so thankful for them and wants to honor them. She would not be who she is today without them.
"My fiancé even asked my oldest brother for permission to marry me," she said. "When my dad heard he was very angry and wanted to be the one [to walk me down the aisle]—I should add my relationship with him in the last two years has been much better. But to me my brothers raised me."
Her extended family has also weighed in on the situation and is divided. Some believe that she should let her dad walk her down the aisle. Others believe it is her choice because it is her big day.
"My two brothers said they would love to, but if my dad was going to cause a scene they would let him do it as to not ruin our day," she added.
Mumsnet users are 100% on Team Bride. They believe she should do what feels right to her.
"This is your wedding, so you do things your way," wrote one user.
Others completely agreed.
"It's your choice and your brothers should allow you to make that choice rather than not wanting to do it in case it causes an argument," chimed in another user.
Some users took their support to the extreme.
"Your dad sounds pretty useless. Do you really want him there at all?" mused one user.
"I'd uninvite from the entire thing. That would solve the issue once and for all," advised another.
