He wants to be married, you enjoy being single. She wants kids but you already have two and you don’t want to the responsibility. She wants to quit her job and travel the world; you want a stable life with a 9 to 5 job with benefits. He wants an open relationship where he can see other people. You want a man who is exclusive to you who want ask you to compromise your principles. And the list goes on and on….
Most of us have been there. And these types of opposite interest relationships can go on for years, even decades, with one or both people hoping they will change the other, which always leads to an argument, “This relationship would be perfect if you would just stop trippin!” She responses, “You just want to have your cake and eat it too!”
They’re both right about the other and they both know it! But the love is too deep, the sex is too good and the bonds are too strong for either of them to let go. And even when they manage to break it off within months, weeks, or even days they’re back on the phone and eventually back in bed. It’s a never-ending drama.
At some point at least one of them must summon the strength, the self-respect, the self-esteem, and the integrity to say, “I’m hurting you and I have to stop.” Because the truth is when you don’t want the same things you’re blocking your partner from finding what they want and probably deserve and that’s selfishly stealing someone’s happiness no matter how you try to justify it.
~ By Michael Baisden
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