I’m going to admit something kind of embarrassing, so are you ready to be let in on my little secret? Over the past few months, my significant other and I have been enduring a massive lull in our sex lives, leading to tumbleweeds in our bedroom.
But this is totally normal and something many couples experience on a long enough timeline. I’ve always heard my married friends complain that at a certain point in the relationship, you and your partner start to feel more like roommates than passionate lovers.
My man and I always sort of snorted at this concept, since we’re both extremely romantic individuals who aren’t afraid to get all adventurous and creative during sexy time. Yet, six years down the road, and we sort of just… I don’t know. Fell into a routine. Sex started to feel more like a chore to tick off the to-do list for us, no different than taking the trash out or remembering to water the plants. And, let’s be real here, what’s sexy about doing chores? Nothing.
It’s not that we ever stopped loving each other. Our lack of sexy time was just the natural progression of being in a long-term relationship, where we saw each other every waking minute of every waking day. He’s seen me clip my toenails. I’ve seen him pick broccoli out of his teeth. It’s not exactly Casablanca levels of passion anymore. At least not all the time.
Yet because of this lull, I’ve had to find a way to blow off steam in other ways. That’s where the act of self-love has come in, otherwise known as good old-fashioned masturbation. We meet again! It’s obviously an act done in private, but it’s not so easy to have that alone time anymore since my man and I share the same bed.
As such, he once caught me in the act in the middle of the night. And you know what? It turns out it was the cure for our dead bedroom. I suggested he join me, and it ended up being one of the most erotic experiences we’ve had in years. It turns out, there’s a term for this, and it’s called mutual masturbation. Let’s dive a bit deeper into what it is and why it can be extremely intimate.
What Is Mutual Masturbation?
Mutual masturbation is when you and your partner masturbate at the same time. It seems simple enough, but there’s a taboo element to it, since it’s an act that’s usually done solo.
Who Is It For?
All consenting couples can enjoy this act, but it is ideal for pairs who may dislike penetration during sex.
Additionally, it can also be a great way to engage in foreplay before penetration, for couples who are okay with it.
Mutual masturbation can be a very intimate experience since it transforms a private act into something shared, creating a deeper connection while amplifying desire between partners. It’s a great way to add spice and intimacy to your sex life. And who wouldn’t want that?
