It can be great to have family step in to help after a new baby is born, but it's not always easy … especially if said family isn't really doing much to help after all. One new mom has shared on Reddit that she's learning this the hard way.
She begins: "I'm a F32 had my first baby 3 months ago. I had a difficult pregnancy and overall difficult time adjusting and managing everything from the baby to household chores. MIL moved in literally a week after my son was born. My husband let her move in to 'help.'"
Unfortunately her mother-in-law has made things harder.
"But I found myself cooking and cleaning for her. Even doing her laundry!!!!. I become 3× more exhausted. I begged my husband to tell her to go home it's been 3 months nearly but he shamed me for even saying it."
She hit her breaking point recently.
"Last week was my final straw. She had spilled drinks over the couch and asked me to clean it up before her guests arrived. I had a blow up argument with her and my husband again shamed me for asking her to leave."
So she moved out.
"So what I did was contact my brother who managed to get me a cheap apartment to rent. I packed my stuff and my son's stuff and moved in. My husband found out and blew up my phone calling and texting. We had an argument and he was shocked saying I was out of line for making such decision and getting his son away from him."
She and her husband are fighting now.
"He demanded that I return but I said no, not until MIL goes home. He called me spiteful and said that my behavior against his mom was disgraceful because she left her hometown to be with us and her grandbaby."
People are worried her mother-in-law is planning to stay forever.
One commenter notes: "It almost sounds like MIL never plans to move out and your husband is fully aware and agreed she could move in with you permanently without discussing it with you first. If he wants you and your baby to come home, MIL can move into the apartment you’ve rented and you can go home."
They're also worried about her husband in general.
"Your MIL is awful, but honestly your husband is WORSE," another commenter wrote. "He sees how his mom is behaving and shames YOU?? You need to protect yourself and your son. His behavior isn’t going to change. So you need to make a change."
They're also impressed with how she solved the problem.
"I’m super impressed with your swift and efficient solution to the problem," a third person added. "Your husband needs to take in what you’re saying. Hope he has a change in perspective somehow. You’re not spiteful and you’re not behaving in a disgraceful manner. MIL leaves, wife and son come back. Simple. Again, he needs an attitude transplant."
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