We all find jobs that call to us in one way or another. It's really easy to look at someone else's profession and find yourself thinking, "I couldn't do that."
One woman took to Reddit after her friend expressed some feelings about the original poster's boyfriend. OP explains that throughout her relationship, which has been going on for about two years, her boyfriend has been studying to become an OB-GYN.
Because of the health crisis, they were just starting to socialize as a couple despite how long they've been together. A friend of hers decided to share some thoughts about OP's partner becoming an OB-GYN, and OP wasn't too happy about it.
OP explains that she and her boyfriend are in it for the long haul.
"I (30F) have been dating my bf (31M) for about two years. In that time, he finished his OBGYN residency training and began working at a private practice," OP explained.
"We have a very happy relationship with great communication and we're heading towards engagement."
OP and her boyfriend are getting back to socializing for the first time as a couple.
"I recently caught up with a college friend (29F) who I hadn't talked with in a while. I'm not on social media a lot so people who I haven't kept up with often don't realize I'm with my bf, especially because we started dating right before the pandemic and haven't traveled together for weddings or anything," she continued.
OP was excited to tell her friend all about her new love.
Telling her friend about her boyfriend's profession didn't go as planned.
"When I told my friend that my bf was an OBGYN, she said, 'omg are you serious? He looks at vaginas all day? Doesn’t that make you insecure that he does that for a living?'"
OP asked what she meant and didn't love the answer.
OP asked what her friend meant, and her answer was less than mature:
"She said, 'do you ever wonder if he's judging yours? Or do you get jealous that he looks at other people's vaginas constantly?'"
OP felt her man was disrespected.
"I was super angry when I heard this," OP leveled.
"For one, that makes him sound pervy and unprofessional. He does look at vaginas FOR MEDICAL REASONS and is always completely professional with his patients."
She also didn't like the assumptions that were made about her relationship.
"Second, I really resented the implication that our relationship is lacking or that I have a reason to be insecure about his faithfulness to me," she continued.
"Third, I think this reasoning is sexist and no one would ask that if I was dating a female OBGYN."
The friend wasn't expecting OP to be offended.
"I responded, 'That's actually really messed up that you said that. It makes me angry and I'm going to stop this conversation now,'" OP shared.
"And then I hung up the phone. She hasn't reached out to apologize. I'm now wondering if I overreacted. I feel bad."
Anyone who was ever in the medical field supported OP.
"RN here, I've seen and touched a lot of naked people and their genitals, not only is it NEVER sexual but some healthcare workers have a negatively affected sex lives because of it," one commenter noted. "It's literally part of the job."
Some commenters wondered how OP's friend handled her own health with these thoughts.
"Oh wow, your 'friend' is actually sexualizing a medical act that had nothing sexual. This is so messed up," one commenter wrote. "I bet she never birthed a child, right? I hope she grows up if she plans to do that, or else she's in for a LOT of uncomfortable situations."
A few people did argue OP's friend probably didn't mean to offend her.
Though OP took it personally, a few people argued that her friend may have been so curious she didn't realize how her comments sounded.
"I think her question was out of curiosity more than anything, I don’t think she meant to offend you," a commenter wrote. "I actually think a lot of people would think that but probably not ask that, she just put her foot in her mouth that's all. She should apologize, and I don't think you’re wrong for being offended either."
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