What to Know
I’m going to let you in on a little secret that’s honestly pretty embarrassing: I’ve spent the last few months feeling extremely bored in the bedroom. Like, screamingly bored. It’s gotten to the point where I’m contemplating what I want to order for dinner while my significant other and I are in the middle of getting it on.
I know, I know. It’s bad. But with all that being said, it’s not like it’s anyone’s fault. My significant other is a stud who is no stranger to fulfilling my wildest fantasies. Yet falling into a boring bedroom slump is just sort of what happens after you’ve done it hundreds of times, with the same old missionary, reverse cowgirl, and doggy style positions, nearly every day on a loop. At a certain point, it just becomes a part of the standard routine, no different than checking the mailbox or reorganizing the pantry. Not exactly sexy.
Recently, my significant other and I had a talk, in which we were both finally ready to admit that something had to change. So we sought out a sex therapist, who was able to let us in on all the little tips and tricks that would bring the spark back to our bedroom. She asked us if we had ever heard of The Speed Bump, which is currently all the rage on TikTok. When we both shrugged, our therapist beamed and explained the sex position, along with why it’s so popular.
What Is the Speed Bump Sex Position, And Why Is It Perfect For Women?
The Speed Bump is a sex position that’s similar to doggy style, but not quite. It involves the woman lying down flat on her stomach, with a pillow underneath her hips to keep this area elevated slightly. The elevation allows for easier access to the G-spot during penetration, which makes it a particularly enjoyable position for the woman.
I’m not someone who usually cares about all the different sex positions, since the most important element to me during sexy time is the passion I share with my partner. And yet, the speed bump completely changed my perspective. Who would have guessed that one position could bring back the spark in our sex lives? I admit I was skeptical at first, but now I don’t think I’ll ever go back to the old overused positions.
Additional Tips For Incorporating The Speed Bump Into Your Sex Life
If the speed bump sounds like fun to you, here are a few tips to ensure you have the very best time.
Go For A Pillow Or A Rolled-Up Towel
Want to make the speedbump position a little more amazing? Grab a pillow or roll up a towel and prop it under your hips. That small lift adds comfort and turns up the pleasure factor.
Whip Out The Dirty Talk
Since this particular sex position doesn’t involve face-to-face interaction, dirty talk can be a great way to bridge the intimacy gap in order to enhance the connection as well as the experience.
Penetration Isn’t Enough
It’s important that women and men bear in mind the fact that for women, mere penetration is rarely enough to have an orgasm. It requires time and focus, particularly concerning the clitoris. Incorporating clitoral stimulation either through touching or sex toys is an essential step to enhance the woman’s (and therefore their partner’s) experience.
Who’s ready to add some serious spice to their sex lives with this favored position? I know I am!
