Sexuality is a very common topic these days, as a lot of people seem to be grappling with who they’re attracted to. Society doesn’t always make it easy to accept what it’s like to be attracted to the same gender, and it’s especially confusing when you’re attracted to more than one.
However, as times change, it’s becoming normalized and more and more people are accepting that sexuality is a spectrum. It’s okay not to know who you’re attracted to, and it’s normal not to figure it out until later in life.
However, some women have very vivid memories of the moment they realized they were bisexual. A deleted Reddit user asked, “Bisexual women: When did you realize you were bi?” From crushes on female celebrities to feeling attracted to girls at school, everyone has a memory of which women sparked their sexual awakening.
Mid 20s Realization
“For me, I didn’t actually accept that I was bisexual until I was in my mid-20s, and this was after I’d had multiple sexual experiences with other women. I had a huge Britney Spears poster on my wall right next to Keanu Reeves, and it just… didn’t click for some reason.”-Jrxibell
If anyone is going to awaken you to your bisexuality, it’s gonna be Britney Spears and Keanu Reeves.
Awakened By The Movies
“I remember being turned on (if that’s the right way to put it) by semi-naked women when I was younger, like from the age of 10 maybe. Examples include Isabella Rosselini’s character in Death Becomes Her, Chel in The Road to El Dorado (I know, it’s a cartoon, [but] still valid), watching Rose get sketched in Titanic, [and] also basically every character in The Mummy.” -TapirLove
The movies have a way of making everyone look so attractive, so it makes sense that you’d feel something for all the characters.
Classroom Crush
“I think I was around 14. I was sitting in a classroom and one of the other girls was wearing jeans and a crop top… She was not nice to me, but I recall watching her stomach rise and fall as she was breathing and enjoying the sight. And then, Shakira’s “Whenever, Wherever” music video was everywhere, and I was hypnotized.” -anaesthaesia
A hot mean girl and a Shakira music video? Who wouldn’t find that attractive!
The Girl At The Salon
“There was one girl who worked at the salon who was absolutely gorgeous. [She was] super tall [and] would wear really nice long skirts with a crop top, and wore her hair in a bun, and she was very friendly to me. I mentioned to my bf at the time, ‘The girl at the tanning salon is like extra nice to me, it’s weird,’ and he said, ‘Maybe she has a crush on you.’ I got a little defensive over this ‘What? No, she’s just nice.’ And then I thought about her for weeks until I thought, maybe I want her to like me.” -NewYearNewYEET
Getting defensive is typically the first sign, but it’s good to have the self-awareness to realize that.
The Angelina Crush
“I realized and accepted I was bi around age 13. I had a crush on one of my [female] friends, and I realized I [had] felt the same when I was 7 or 8 for another girl. I remember wondering why I wanted to be around this girl and be close to her or touch her when I was 8, but [it] made more sense now that I understood attraction, as I had crushes on boys or actors, and this felt the same. I also liked Angelina Jolie a little bit too much. I think what made it all clear was that I had a crush on a male friend, and he started being very close to this female friend, and I was jealous af. But when I analyzed why I was jealous, I came to the conclusion it was not just because of him, I didn’t even [want] him to not pay attention to her! I just wanted to be in the middle of that love sandwich.” -Miztykal
If there’s anyone you’re gonna like a little too much, of course, it’s going to be Angelina Jolie.
Spice Up Your Sexuality
“I grew up in a tiny town, and I realized I was attracted to women when I was ten and saw the Spice Girls for the first time (Posh Spice really did it for me.) I didn’t understand really what that meant, because nobody in my life was [gay] & I just figured something was wrong with me and that I’d just wind up marrying a guy and having kids (even though I didn’t want kids, I felt like I had to have them because that’s just what people did.) When I was 12 and my best guy friend came out to me as gay, I realized ‘oh, I’m not straight, that’s all this is, and it’s normal, and I’m not broken.’” -fogcoffeeandcats
There’s certainly nothing wrong with not being straight, and it’s good to have a friend in your life who understands.
I’m Not Like Other Girls
“When I was 17 in sixth form and a bunch of girls were talking about how they had no judgment of anyone who did, but the idea of going down on a girl made them feel sick, and they could never ever do it. I was confused how they could say that when it was literally no problem. That was the first moment that made me click, ‘Oh wait, I’m in a circle of straight girls and am more than happy with the idea of going down on a hypothetical girl, I’m not that straight, am I?’ From there, the realisations of oh that girl crush on that celebrity is just a crush, that thought of ‘damn that girl is gorgeous, do I want to look like her or be with her’, all made a very quick transition into yes, I’m bi.” -ro-fr-ro
Nothing like realizing other girls don’t think the same way about women as you do to conclude that you’re actually bisexual.
Cara Crush
“[When I was] 13, [on the] third day of high school, the lesbian girl in my school walked by and my friend said, “That’s Cara, she’s gay.” It was a lightning strike moment because I was so immediately attracted to her. [I] crushed [on her] for the next 2 years.” -Dominemm
At least you weren’t the only girl at school catching feelings for other girls.
Well, everyone certainly has their own unique story about realizing they’re not straight, but they’re not gay either. It’s no surprise that some of the most beautiful celebrities in the world were the ones to help some of these women realize that they actually are attracted to their own gender, too. Do you have a story about realizing you are bisexual? Let us know!
You can view the deleted user’s Reddit post here.
