Planning a wedding can be a tense time, and this is especially true if the two people getting married have families who have different political beliefs or moral leanings. As one groom has shared on Reddit, this is especially true for him because his teen sister is pregnant.
He writes, "I 33m am getting married to my future wife 29f in a week. My fiancées family is incredibly conservative, which is important."
His bride is worried his sister won't be dressed 'appropriately.'
He continues, "I have a sister 18 who is currently like 28 weeks pregnant, so she’ll be about 30 weeks at my wedding, and she’s already showing a decent amount.
"My fiancée recently came to me and asked that I make sure my sister is dressed appropriately and wear something loose to not bring focus to her bump."
The groom sent over a few ideas.
"I called my sister earlier and asked what she was planning on wearing to the wedding. She sent me photos of a few dresses that all naturally brought attention to her belly," the groom continues.
"I told her while I love her and support her, I wanted her to wear something extremely loose that didn’t show her bump, and sent her a few options."
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His sister wasn't too happy.
"She told me it’s already going to be really warm on the day and the whole wedding is outside, she’s worried about overheating as she already gets hot really easily," he explains.
"I told her I understood but fiancée doesn’t want attention brought to her and her family to notice the pregnant teenager at our wedding."
The groom is more concerned about his in-laws.
He concludes, "My sister started crying and hung up, and my mom told me I was an [expletive] and while my sister being young and pregnant is a bit of a shock, I can’t expect her to sacrifice her bodily comfort for someone else."
People are politely baffled.
One person writes, "Do you and your fiancé really think her parents won't find out about the baby eventually? Is your fiancé even positive they would have an issue with an unwed pregnant 18 year old, or is she just assuming they will? And even if they do have an issue, that is their problem, and not your sister's responsibility to shield them from reality."
His sister shouldn't feel ashamed.
Another person writes, "Hate to break it to you, but there’s really no clothing option that will fully conceal a 30 Week baby bump. (Especially with less than a week’s notice! Ha!) And even if there was, it’s gross and weird for you to want your sister to hide her pregnancy to appease your 'very conservative' (AKA prudish, judgmental, pearl clutching) ILs. By asking her to hide, you’re making it clear to her that you care more about what your ILs think than how she feels. You’re sending a message that her pregnancy is something to be concealed and to be ashamed of."
Some offered solutions.
Maybe it's time to just be adults about it. A third person writes, "My solution would be to inform your inlaws of the situation, and explain that whether they like it or not, it's your wedding and you'd appreciate they keep their comments to themselves. People need to learn to accept that there are other humans in this world that won't live the way they do/want them to and mind their own."
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