Woman’s Mom And Sister Berate Boyfriend Who Turns Down His Wife’s Home-Cooked Meals

A guy took to Reddit to share his tough time with his girlfriend's new hobby. What he thought would be a positive thing ended up turning into a months-long headache.

"My girlfriend moved in with me a little under a year ago and has taken up the hobby of cooking around 6 months ago. She loves it, she has bought all sorts of utensils, machines, cookbooks and loves adding her own twist. She also only works part-time so has plenty of time for her hobby," he explained.

Now, everyone's expectation is that cooking as a hobby is something a partner, who would reap the benefits, would be totally stoked about.

"You are probably thinking 'Great, coming home to a homecooked meal.' But nothing is further from the truth, she literally can't cook," he shared.

"The best meals she has ever made have been average or bland, but usually she serves brutally overseasoned, overcooked [expletive]. I legitimately dreaded coming home because I had to eat it."

The original poster (OP) tried to keep a realistic perspective on the situation. He figured she'd have some misses as a new cook, but he wasn't expecting just how bad she could be at it.

"At first I figured she was a beginner at cooking so [expletive] happens, I ate it and gave supportive criticism," he explained.

"Month 2, I started being more blunt as I kept coming home to this and I can't drive home how bad of a cook she is, so I started telling her to wait till I get home so we can cook together, but no, she is done when I get home more or less."

Now a few months in, this guy is getting really frustrated. He wants to help. He's offered to help. So he started being a little more direct.

"Month 3, I got tired of it and kept trying to get her to let me bring takeout or let me cook when I get home to no avail. Month 4, I asked her to stop cooking for me, again, she didn't listen," he explained.

"I then had yet another serious conversation about this, trying to tell her in the nicest possible way that she is not a good cook and to please wait for me to get home so we can cook together or to make food only for herself, again, straight up ignored," he continued.

"So since about a month ago I just stopped eating what she makes. I either pick something up on my way home or cook myself when I get home."

That's where this slight conflict blew up into something more major. Obviously, his girlfriend is offended that he's just feeding himself now. Still, he couldn't understand why she wasn't receptive to any of his ideas or suggestions.

"Obviously she keeps getting mad because she usually already made food, but it seems that she finally gets it and has stopped making me food for the past week," he shared.

In case things weren't bad enough, she told her mom and sister about the situation. Now they're coming after OP for making her feel bad.

"But now I get to deal with her sister and mom messaging me about me being a [expletive], hurting her feelings and how most guys would appreciate it," he noted.

"I do feel like a bit of a [expletive] but it seems like I tried every avenue to no avail so I am left with refusing to eat it."

The guy was looking for the internet to set him straight. It's a tough situation. While you can see how his way of handling things could be read as insensitive, it does seem like he has genuinely tried doing things the nice way. Most people agreed that it seems like he was trying not to hurt her feelings.

"Bruh, some people just suck at cooking. It's even worse when they can't take the hint that their cooking sucks," one commenter wrote.

"Remind her that she has to follow the recipes exactly as they are written instead of 'adding her own twist.' I believe this is where the problem lies."

Someone else shared how they handled a similar experience.

"If someone doesn't like your cooking, and they are willing to cook something else, then you just let them get on with it. What does she expect that you do, put up with a lifetime of inedible meals?" they wrote.

"I had this issue once. Meals spiced to the point that they hurt to eat, and meltdowns when I suggested two pans with the same ingredients but different levels of spice. Nothing could be without hot peppers. Spaghetti? Hot peppers. A curry that is mild and has complex flavors? No, your mouth must burn until you can't taste anything. This is one of the many reasons that person is an ex."

Another commenter noted that she doesn't seem all that interested in being a good cook. Her interest seems to lie more in saying she did the work.

"A good cook considers those that eat the food being made. She doesn't – she ignores your comments and criticisms. That makes her a bad cook," they explained.

"You should be able to point that out to her, and get her to compromise on food so you can both enjoy it."

As for dealing with her family's attacks, a commenter offered the simplest solution to that problem.

"Invite them over for a meal so they can experience it for themselves," they suggested.

"It will either shut them up or lead to them talking to her about her cooking."

One insightful commenter did realize how that idea could go south.

"Or what if she got it from them? Like she cooks the same way they do and that's why OP's girlfriend's mom and sister think it's ok," they mused.

"But it just sounds like something OP and his girlfriend need to compromise on."