What would you do if you were on a date and your boyfriend wanted to pretend to pay the bill? Just for the sake of not having his manhood threatened? One woman found herself in this exact situation when she and her boyfriend went out to dinner with a handful of friends.
When she refused to let him to pretend to pay the bill, he believed she was in the wrong. The woman took to Reddit to get the opinions of others.
The woman and her boyfriend don't have the same pay grade.
According to the woman, she and her boyfriend are in different income brackets. She's 24 and he's 26, and they've been dating for eight months.
Her boyfriend is kind of insecure about this.
Her boyfriend, who she refers to as "Ben," isn't secure about the pay gap. "Ben has expressed that he sometimes feels a little bit weird about this because he is a gentleman at heart but he says it’s hard to treat me since I’m not really impressed by his gestures. I’ve said many times that I’m not concerned about these kind of things either way, but it comes up periodically."
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They go to dinner with friends.
The woman and her boyfriend ended up going to dinner with six of her friends. There were three men and five women. Once dinner was over, her two guy friends said they would get the bill, because the guys usually do when they go out.
Ben tries to pretend to pay his portion of dinner.
"Ben quietly said to me that he wasn’t really comfortable with the guys paying for his dinner so I said I’d chip in with the bill. Ben said thank you but could he chip in and then I could pay him back afterwards because he didn’t want them to know I was paying."
Girlfriend isn't having it.
"This struck me as totally absurd because firstly, it’s an unnecessary step, second even split the cost was something I wasn’t sure he would realistically be able to cover, and third I felt like he was trying to enter a pissing contest with my friends which was just childish."
The woman chips in for the bill.
The girlfriend ends up paying for a third of the bill to cover her and her boyfriend's dinner. She says that none of her friends even cared, but Ben found it highly problematic.
Ben gets mad.
"He’s now mad at me saying I emasculated him and made him look bad in front of my friends. I think he’s overdramatising it because my friends couldn’t care less and he needs to get over himself. Am I in the wrong for not letting him 'save face'?"
Other users weigh in with their votes.
Many Redditors seemed to think the girlfriend did nothing wrong.
One person commented: "Nta! And it sounds like he didn’t have the money to afford it, and he just didn’t know how to tell you. Super weird."
Some people have differing opinions.
Other users seemed to find the woman in the wrong.
"My initial reaction was to say NTA, but the more I read this, the more I come to YTA, and it's because of one thing that you said," one user commented. "You said the other two guys split the bill as they normally do when you all go out as a group. It sounds like you didn't prepare your BF ahead of time about how the bill is normally paid with your friend group."
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